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I just can't imagine a scenario in which I just had to talk to someone on the phone during a date unless it was an emergency.
In truth, I've been with my wife for 24 years now, and I still don't trot out the phone to look at it when we're out to dinner. She deserves my attention.
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Originally Posted by stan4
Yeah, right.
Suddenly, everyone is full of emergencies.
Put it on vibrate.
If it rings more than twice, check it out.
My phone (and many others) have it where you can put on silence and it only breaks through if the same number calls twice in 5 minutes.
Y'all need to get over yourselves.
I want to agree with you partially, but cannot because of this "zero-tolerance" slant. If I'm on a date and either a 502/270 area code (Louisville and Ft. Knox KY area where my mother lives) calls and it is NOT my mother's number, I'm gonna be far too worried about something happening to mom out there to carry on like nothing is happening. I would hope any date I have would at least excuse me 30-45 seconds to answer at least see if someone done got killed or something. If not, I'd wrap it up pronto then go back. Who knows if that person is going to be able to send in a second call? Mind you, I use my phone for actual phone calls maybe once or twice per week, I mainly text with friends and if they call I know it is something at least urgent but not necessarily important.
I don't think anyone would argue emergencies take priority, but causal conversations and checking your Facebook during time with others is not an emergency.
Actively pulling yourself out of situations is the issue, not answering the odd text or call.
me I'm OK if it's a phone call from a parent or child, or perhaps related work. Otherwise if it whips just out for just watch or it's a friend, this is not good.
THIS IS MY OPINION
Waaaaa!! Y'all sound like a bunch of toddlers throwing a tantrum because the focus is not all on you every second. Can't deal with someone or something else getting attention for a minute. Do you whine and cry if your date glances away to look at the decor of the restaurant? Or if they read a blurb on the menu about the history of the restaurant? Do you have to fill every second of the date with your talking, talking, talking? Me me me me me! Waaaa. You looked at your phone. Waaaa. Me me me! It's about me!
I hope that one day when you're having brain surgery your neurosurgeon won't decide to keep one hand on the middle cerebral artery and meanwhile check his facebook posts with the other hand and see if anyone has put any new kitten memes on there.
There is a time and place for focus. And there is a time and place for loosely interacting and checking in on other things thanks to our wonderful technology. If you don't know the difference, then there was definitely a failure of manners communication to you from your parents and/or other surrounding adults.
In 13 years (and tens of thousands of patient encounters) of practicing emergency medicine, I can promise you that not one person has ever died in any ER or trauma center that I have worked in because someone else didn't answer the phone while they were at dinner.
This emergency thing is a way over played card. No one is saying that you wouldn't want to know right away if a loved one was in some kind of emergency. I have kids. I want to know.
However, what exactly would you even do about that? How would knowing about that 2 or 3 minutes earlier save anyone? How would calling you benefit someone more than having them call 911? And how many times has this scenario even ever played out?
In 13 years (and tens of thousands of patient encounters) of practicing emergency medicine, I can promise you that not one person has ever died in any ER or trauma center that I have worked in because someone else didn't answer the phone while they were at dinner.
This emergency thing is a way over played card. No one is saying that you wouldn't want to know right away if a loved one was in some kind of emergency. I have kids. I want to know.
However, what exactly would you even do about that? How would knowing about that 2 or 3 minutes earlier save anyone? How would calling you benefit someone more than having them call 911? And how many times has this scenario even ever played out?
Silly.
Not all of it is life or death.
I have work emergencies. My phone always has to be on me at all times due to time zones and time spefic installs and issues that cannot be predicted.
It's not life and death, but you can bet it's a lost client if not dealt with.
It's putting my business and employees in a bad spot to allow it to be ignored.
That said, when I am out with my wife or taking time to spend with loved ones, you better bet I have my phone off and arrangments made to have someone in a position of authority who can handle issues that I trust.
It is all part of taking the time and due diligence for my own problems and not putting them on to others.
Of course life is not predictable and sometimes these things overlap themslevs, but thankfully I have very understanding loved ones.
I have work emergencies. My phone always has to be on me at all times due to time zones and time spefic installs and issues that cannot be predicted.
It's not life and death, but you can bet it's a lost client if not dealt with.
It's putting my business and employees in a bad spot to allow it to be ignored.
That said, when I am out with my wife or taking time to spend with loved ones, you better bet I have my phone off and arrangments made to have someone in a position of authority who can handle issues that I trust.
It is all part of taking the time and due diligence for my own problems and not putting them on to others.
Of course life is not predictable and sometimes these things overlap themslevs, but thankfully I have very understanding loved ones.
This is a very reasonable post. The point of mine was to highlight the most drastic of scenarios. Work stuff is important, too, but not life or death.
Obviously, we have on-call specialists who need to be at the hospital within 30 minutes when it is their day.
They tend to schedule their social activities for their days not on call.
Waaaaa!! Y'all sound like a bunch of toddlers throwing a tantrum because the focus is not all on you every second. Can't deal with someone or something else getting attention for a minute. Do you whine and cry if your date glances away to look at the decor of the restaurant? Or if they read a blurb on the menu about the history of the restaurant? Do you have to fill every second of the date with your talking, talking, talking? Me me me me me! Waaaa. You looked at your phone. Waaaa. Me me me! It's about me!
You did understand, didn't you, that the woman the OP is talking about was on the phone for over half an hour, not "for a minute"? It sounds like you need to re-read the OP. Your post is off-topic on this thread.
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