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Pretty much any half way decent bar in any half way decent city. Cocktails are often $12-16. Three each over a couple of hours (which is nothing) for two people with tip and you're easily at $100.
I guess it's a good thing that I'm content with $8 drinks and two is my limit.
No, it isn't. Maybe in your opinion, but it's not some broad rule to be applied to every situation. Guess what? Someone's gotta ask someone out for them to go out. Since I'm the one asking her out (date or not) every time, according to you I'm responsible for footing the bill every time. I make decent money, but I don't feel obligated to pay for someone every time I say, "Hey, let's go out". For one, it's not financially responsible. And two, it's a frickin' moronic and entitled mindset to expect that from somebody.
She has a job, she hasn't asked me out once. She did buy me a couple cheap drinks though a week ago.
To me it's not even about the drinks, but that appalling comment about an entertainment budget.
Oh come on, like he'd sit there with an empty glass. Please!
It's not unusual for one person to drink at a slower pace than another. Did you think he'd suddenly start chugging his drinks just to keep up with her?
It is to each individual, sure. But they're likely not going to have a clue if it will succeed as a LTR until they have sex anyway. Way too many people aren't sexually compatible with one another and there is often nothing that can be done about that no matter how much they like one another and want things to work, so that should be determined early on. That is, if you actually want a relationship that has a healthy sexual component and you want to have fun while dating.
True. But they could also reach the conclusion there's no LTR potential without having sex, too. For example if this $100 drink-bill incident had happened before they'd had sex, the OP might have decided she was too high-maintenance or too entitled, and he might have moved on.
It's not unusual for one person to drink at a slower pace than another. Did you think he'd suddenly start chugging his drinks just to keep up with her?
Oh come on. It is unusual to go out with someone and not be basically at the same rate; that only happens when one person dominates a conversation and doesn't drink (annoying). It is rare that at the end of the night (unless you're living in a place where someone needs to drive and it was a long night) where you're not within 1 drink of the other. Very rare.
And he said they both had three drinks. You're the only one that kind of assumed that he had one.
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
True. But they could also reach the conclusion there's no LTR potential without having sex, too. For example if this $100 drink-bill incident had happened before they'd had sex, the OP might have decided she was too high-maintenance or too entitled, and he might have moved on.
They could. And that would have been worse. No sex and no LTR.
$100 isn't that much. Yeah, it adds up, but seriously, that's a night out for drinks, or a modest dinner.
That said, I think this woman is a bore. At this point she should have, if she liked him, insisted on picking up a tab. They're a month or so in, right? That's long past due. I'd be out of there.
I agree. That's why I said it rubbed me the wrong way. It made me feel like I was being used.
That's how it's starting to seem to me. Not to harp on it, but usually taking things slow an overall thing. Sex very early on isn't taking it slow, and being annoyed that you're not footing her bar bill isn't either. Have to wonder which part is slow, simply not labelling yourselves as BF/GF?
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