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Old 01-18-2015, 06:43 PM
 
Location: SF Bay Area
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By now, it doesn't really matter what the excuses are ... I'd put this one into the "casual date" pile and not give it anymore thoughts.
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Old 01-18-2015, 07:01 PM
 
Location: D.C.
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This is way too easy, time to end it. Being late or cancelling once or twice is one thing, but it seems like it's a regular occurrence with her. So you were supposed to meet at 1 and she didn't show until 7? Sorry, that would have been the end for me. I don't deal with rude people. If she really was interested in you, this would not happen.
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Old 01-18-2015, 07:15 PM
 
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I would keep her around as a 2nd or 3rd option and continue the process of looking for another woman.

There are way too many ladies out there to waste your time with one that is most likely playing games and/or dealing with other guys.

Don't waste anymore of your VALUABLE time with this one woman.
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Old 01-18-2015, 07:20 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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I would keep her around as a 2nd or 3rd option and continue the process of looking for another woman.

There are way too many ladies out there to waste your time with one that is most likely playing games and/or dealing with other guys.

Don't waste anymore of your VALUABLE time with this one woman.
Why waste any time at all on her? I don't understand why he would keep her around if she usually cancels on him or shows up 6 hours late.
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Old 01-18-2015, 07:25 PM
 
Location: PANAMA
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I have a similar issue

A girl I met online in POF, and we went for dinner, her suggestion. Everything was fine, I even get her a Xmas gift. Right a couple of days before New Years he begins to put on her whatsapp profile pictures with her with another men. I asked her if she was single she says yes, those are just "friends".

After New Year she became distant blaming her job and a moving. I've been calling her but only get voicemail and when we chat she is elusive, saying "she doesn't have time to date because she is with a lot of pressure at her job and she is in a process of moving".

My experience is that you cannot do much when the girl doesn't show interest in you, you are opening the door but you cannot wait for anyone. My motto is "don't chase people"
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Old 01-18-2015, 07:29 PM
 
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I think the problem is that many men and women think there is more to the relationship when there is not. She probably just sees you as an option.
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Old 01-18-2015, 07:45 PM
 
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If your wiling to deal with her disrespectful behavior stick around.

But.... If you are continually upset by it, move forward. I'm not saying jump into another relationship but she has some issues to work on. There are women who will want to spend time with you. Or she has a phobia of commitment.
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Old 01-18-2015, 08:05 PM
 
Location: Minnesota
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Stop making excuses for this person. You are making yourself available. She is not. Move on.
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Old 01-18-2015, 08:08 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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It sounds like she doesn't want to tell her parents about you. She could have told her mom she had a date with a guy, and that she'd take a rain check for that dinner, but she didn't.

Some of this could be chalked up to it being a holiday period, but you said she's been canceling on you since the beginning, right? Which would be mid-Dec. If she wanted to see you, she'd make time.
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Old 01-18-2015, 10:15 PM
 
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Dump her and move on. If she's like this now think how bad she'd be if you actually did progress and went further.
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