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So I've been going to the same gym for almost 2 years and there is this girl I find attractive and since the summer and I finally did something about it last week. This is the first time doing something like this so I'm glad I did. I didn't approach her yet, but here is what happened.
I noticed the girl I want to talk to (Sarah) talking to this older lady (Rachael) who works at the spa/salon at my gym. I asked to speak with Rachael on the side and I introduced myself followed by describing the girl I want to approach. I asked if I wrote down my number on a piece of paper if she could give it to her. I think she thought I knew Sarah already and it was just a friends thing, but then I said I find her really attractive and would like to get to know her. She smiled and told me to follow her as we went back to her desk. I said, "I've never been in a situation like this so if you have any suggestion I'm listening." She smiled again and I asked what she was thinking and she responded with she thought it was a good idea. We talked and I said I noticed them talking to each other before which is why I asked her and she said they are really good friends. This happened on Wednesday.
I go back in the next day and asked Rachael how it went. She pulled out her phone and I asked if it was good and she said yes and no. Not sure what she said to Sarah, but Sarah responded I'd have to know who it is so for now I have to say no. She put haha and lol like every other word too so not sure if this means anything. She texted her again right after saying something like well maybe if I knew who it was I'd be interested or something like that. So it seems like she is interested, but wants to know who it is which makes sense. We talk and she said she would show her my photo of me when I scan in to go in. We talk for a bit and she says Sarah is extremely shy and I said I could notice that which is why I didn't approach her in fear of scaring her off. She goes onto say Sarah is like the biggest sweetheart and a really nice girl and I said I could see that as it's very difficult to find a girl like that in today's society. Rachael then said, "I'll make this happen. I'm going to play Cupid for you." So it seems like she is willing to help.
Well right now I'm contemplating if I should just go in the gym and approach Sarah or wait until the next time I see Rachael to get an update? I think I have to eventually approach Sarah because I'm pretty sure she has my number, but is too shy to text. The next time I would see Rachael would be on Tuesday, but I want to know now if she is interested. Any ideas? Thinking about it, there aren't that many guys my age who go in that gym specifically the time I'm in and she is in so the probability of her thinking it's me is high, but I've been wrong in the past.
You are not ahead because of this. At this moment she has no idea who you are. If you want to make something out of this move quick or the moment will pass and it will be too weird.
I could, but I'd thought it would be better to have a mutual friend set it up. I'm just asking if I should go approach or wait and see what Rachael say about what happened over the weekend. Either way I'm going to have to approach.
Didn't Rachael say she'd show Sarah your pic next time she comes in? So wait a day or two for that, then approach her mid-week. Have a couple of light conversation topics ready, in case you freeze up. After a chat, tell her it was nice talking to her, and you'll see her around. Sometime, the next couple of times you see her, ask her if she'd like to get a snack after working out. If your gym has a juice bar, that would be perfect. If not, hopefully there's some kind of coffee shop or pizza place nearby.
BTW, there are actually quite a few sweet girls and women around these days, but they tend not to get noticed. Good for you, for trying.
I think you should just approach her yourself. Ask her if she is in a class or something as you are interested in joining one, then take it from there. I did this once, worked for me.
Didn't Rachael say she'd show Sarah your pic next time she comes in? So wait a day or two for that, then approach her mid-week. Have a couple of light conversation topics ready, in case you freeze up. After a chat, tell her it was nice talking to her, and you'll see her around. Sometime, the next couple of times you see her, ask her if she'd like to get a snack after working out. If your gym has a juice bar, that would be perfect. If not, hopefully there's some kind of coffee shop or pizza place nearby.
BTW, there are actually quite a few sweet girls and women around these days, but they tend not to get noticed. Good for you, for trying.
This is what I was planning on doing, but just wanted to hear advice. She said she would show her it's me now if she did that I'm not sure. I'm pretty sure Rachael works Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Thursdays so I'm not even sure if she has shown her yet.
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