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This is far from an ideal situation, obviously. But OP is the one who needs to make a decision here. If you think that the guy really loves you, never cheated and is just genuinely scared to make a marriage commitment then you might give him another change. An "ultimatum" for one month seems appropriate.
Just explain to him in a polite and non threatening manner that the only was for you to move forward is marriage. Ask him to make a decision in a month and then don't initiate any contact. If he does not respond or make a decision, then you have your answer. Break up immediately...
It just seems that after seven year of waiting, waiting for one month should not be a big deal. That is what I voted for in the poll...
On the other hand, is you think that he is lying and cheating to you and does not love you, then break up immediately.
He clearly understood your wish to get married by now and 7 years time is long enough to "think". If you feel the need to bring it up one last time for assurance in order to move on, just go ahead and ask him. Delete discuss again and keep waiting!
What a complete waste of 7 years of your life on some fantasy. How can people be so delusional? I'm so glad I'm not the wait around type, you have to make things happen in your life, you don't sit on your ass waiting for some douche to decide your fate. Honestly, just ridiculous.
I think you will do what you know makes sense - tell him you are going to break things off, meet other guys. The question is what will you do if he suddenly says "Okay! okay! I'll marry you!" just to keep you around? Will you keep him or still dump him? What if he also takes forever to say yes when you want to have a baby? I think its important that he stop extending the time but its also important for you to evaluate what is making him drag his feet. If he is afraid or nervous - that's one thing. If he just doesn't want to be married or he doesn't want to be monogamous- thats something else.
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