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Old 02-19-2015, 10:08 AM
 
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Also, tell him to go to the doc and get a prescription of Cialis or Viagra, which he can use a few times until he gets completely comfortable and used to being with you. That might help him get over the hurdle of nerves.
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Old 02-19-2015, 10:18 AM
 
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he got a script for it.. i dont really feel comfortable with that.. like he needs a pil just to have sex with me??? that doesnt make me feel good at all

i alreay have a low self esteem as it is
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Old 02-19-2015, 11:28 AM
 
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i get it at first, but if the girl is doing things then wouldnt that change it??
The other thing you might want to consider is the possibility that they have a medical condition that maybe he doesn't even know about that makes it difficult to get up. A friend of mine who is 24 has one and he can literally only get up in perfect conditions...
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Old 02-19-2015, 11:28 AM
 
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he got a script for it.. i dont really feel comfortable with that.. like he needs a pil just to have sex with me??? that doesnt make me feel good at all

i alreay have a low self esteem as it is
It's not always about you.....obviously he has a condition that requires him to take ED medication. He didn't go to the doctor with your picture, and the doctor gave him the script.....so you need to get that out of your head.
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Old 02-19-2015, 11:30 AM
 
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It's not always about you.....obviously he has a condition that requires him to take ED medication. He didn't go to the doctor with your picture, and the doctor gave him the script.....so you need to get that out of your head.
hes fine on his own when im not around.. so woudlnt that rule out a medical issue?
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Old 02-19-2015, 11:33 AM
 
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hes fine on his own when im not around.. so woudlnt that rule out a medical issue?
Not nessicarily, it is possible that it's a stress induced condition, in which case on his own it wouldn't be a problem, but when he is with you he is worrying about one thing or another, and it may mot even be bad stress, but the excitment of being with you causes enough stress to cause something to go wrong
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Old 02-19-2015, 11:39 AM
 
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thats possible i guess and makes sense.. but itsnt it also possible that he just isnt ready to move on with ME.. or move on at all.. or not into me but just wants to be.. all that is possible too.. and i just dont know what it is. and i feel sick and heartbroken. i didnt even hear from him at all today.
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Old 02-19-2015, 11:44 AM
 
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I'll be honest... that is definatly possible. There are a million different possible reasons, but the point is he is with you. If he isn't ready to move that far then he's just not ready and there isn't anything that can be done about that. If it's that he isn't into you then he wouldn't be with you, since it's obvious that he isn't with you just for sex... I think at this point all you can do is show him that you are there for him with or without the sex. That may make things easier if he knows that his performance won't effect how much you care for him.
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Old 02-19-2015, 11:52 AM
 
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I'll be honest... that is definatly possible. There are a million different possible reasons, but the point is he is with you. If he isn't ready to move that far then he's just not ready and there isn't anything that can be done about that. If it's that he isn't into you then he wouldn't be with you, since it's obvious that he isn't with you just for sex... I think at this point all you can do is show him that you are there for him with or without the sex. That may make things easier if he knows that his performance won't effect how much you care for him.
thats good advice and i could do that if i knew that he was into me and eventaully would be ready.. when this 1st happened we had a convo where i said i am totally fine with going at his pace and just wanted to be with him sex or no sex and we were good.. then he wanted to have sex. and here we are again.

i just cant keep putting my heart out there for months and months only to end up that he finally realizes hes not really that into me.

i feel like i took that options and got hurt.. seems bad idea to do it again? but im not sure
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Old 02-19-2015, 11:58 AM
 
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Then it sounds like you need to have a full out heart to heart with him. He needs to know how your feeling about this and it's obvious that you need some answers too. The first chance you guys get you should sit down and talk to him, explaining everything you said here. The only truth in every relationship is that nothing will get done if there isn't proper communication. And since you can't even tell if he is attracted to you, then there is a definate communication error.
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