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Old 01-20-2015, 12:33 PM
 
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than to be in a relationship where you are constantly worried about getting hurt???
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Old 01-20-2015, 12:35 PM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Single = yes
Alone = no
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Old 01-20-2015, 12:36 PM
 
Location: San Bernandino, CA
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You just need to find someone who has been through the exact same thing as you have. Been there...
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Old 01-20-2015, 12:55 PM
 
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You just need to find someone who has been through the exact same thing as you have. Been there...
what the hell do you do how do you get over this???


none of my relationships last because i think they are doing something and push them away my longest was 2 years and it ended horribly
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Old 01-20-2015, 01:01 PM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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none of my relationships last because i think they are doing something and push them away my longest was 2 years and it ended horribly

Therapy card thrown
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Old 01-20-2015, 01:07 PM
 
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Therapy card thrown

oh how
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Old 01-20-2015, 01:20 PM
 
Location: NY
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than to be in a relationship where you are constantly worried about getting hurt???
Do you have legitimate reasons to be concerned about being hurt in the relationship?

Or is this just an anxiety or paranoia? (Low confidence).
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Old 01-20-2015, 01:34 PM
 
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Therapy card thrown
yep.
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Old 01-20-2015, 01:36 PM
 
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oh how
Because you have trust issues. If you chronically cannot trust your SO even when they have given you no reason to distrust them, you have a psychological issue that needs to be addressed.

That is what therapists spend so many years in school for. Go see one.

I'll say this though, you should be single until you sort this out. It isn't fair to cause suffering to someone else because you refuse to deal with your issues.
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Old 01-20-2015, 01:38 PM
 
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It's better to be in a state where you yourself are happy and are satisfied.

IF that means being single, it means being single.

If that means being in a loving, committed relationship, it means being in that relationship (although I really do try to stress that youll never be happy with anyone if you haven't learned to be happy alone/single).
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