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Old 01-22-2015, 07:38 PM
 
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Well, for what it's worth, my ex-husband, to whom I was married for 22 years, was 12 years older than I. I was 23 and he 35 when we met. It didn't seem like a big age difference at the time (and theoretically it's not), but it became significantly more noticeable as the years passed, though he's always been pretty fit for his age. Nevertheless, he had far less energy than I and a completely different approach to life. (I know that sounds cliche, but it's the truth).

Would I date a guy 10 years older than I now? Sure, IF I were attracted to him and we were compatible. Ultimately, the significance of an age difference comes down to the 2 people involved. I do notice that many women who date/marry men 15+ years older often have the aura of much older women, no matter their age, so perhaps they're more suited to being in a relationship with someone so much older.

But to automatically shrug off a 13-year age difference as no big deal is as nearsighted as it is to automatically dismiss a person because he/she is 10 or 12 or 13 years older/younger.

A 13-year-old age difference might be irrelevant, or it might very well exacerbate problems that naturally arise in any relationship.
I agree with this. An age difference can hurt a long term relationship. You can still have a good relationship, but it's something that must be overcome. The older person needs to take care of themselves and stay youthful for their partner. You have to make sure to be on the same page as far as lifestyles go.

A 65 year old and a78 year old might be in very different stages in life.
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Old 01-22-2015, 11:11 PM
 
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This is a crock of BS. It's a 13 year difference. Hell my folks were that much apart. And my wife and I are even farther. It's quite common outside of this country to have a significant difference in a couples ages. You obviously have been brainwashed by someone or something. Pretty sad that so many in this country are so closed minded when it comes to something so small as age difference.

Maybe you are single and jealous?
I have a boyfriend and am not jealous. It's not the age difference, it's the fact that his profile says he likes women 18-23 when he is 36.
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Old 01-23-2015, 12:41 AM
 
Location: Naptowne, Alaska
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People are giving their opinion if you or op donot like it then do not go on here.
I also gave "my" opinion. I guess you didn't like it. You should probably go pour yourself a big heaping cup of shut the hell up.
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Old 01-23-2015, 12:45 AM
 
Location: Naptowne, Alaska
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I have a boyfriend and am not jealous. It's not the age difference, it's the fact that his profile says he likes women 18-23 when he is 36.
You should make it a point to take a vacation in Europe sometime.
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Old 01-23-2015, 12:47 AM
 
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You should make it a point to take a vacation in Europe sometime.
I have been, in fact most of my relatives live there.
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Old 01-23-2015, 12:51 AM
 
Location: Naptowne, Alaska
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Well then I would think you would be a little less judgmental of others ages. Where my wife is from...it is very common for an older man/younger woman to be married etc.
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Old 01-23-2015, 12:52 AM
 
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Yes and most of those situations are women who are looking at older men to support them. That is not the same thing as an older man who seeks much younger. Those guys are freaks and perverts. A 36 year old man wanting 18-23 is someone who obviously isn't mature.
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Old 01-23-2015, 02:11 AM
 
Location: PANAMA
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If nobody's willing to help and give a concrete answer, then you can keep your opinions to yourself, as I'm not asking for them.
If you feel like it, just go for it, but remember, often divorcees are still in the "pain process".
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Old 01-23-2015, 02:11 AM
 
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I'm surprised people aren't asking if you have issues because you want to talk to an older man on Facebook.
let me.

op has issues

just based off the wording "approaching...facebook" (wont even comment on the situation)

i thought the whole point of this texting/computer conversing thing was that it makes it easy to have a "conversation" with people

anyways, op made no mention that the divorcee had mental problems
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Old 01-23-2015, 05:23 AM
 
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I also gave "my" opinion. I guess you didn't like it. You should probably go pour yourself a big heaping cup of shut the hell up.
I am not going shut up!
I just do not like when you insulted other posters.

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