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Old 01-21-2015, 04:18 PM
 
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Originally Posted by snugglegirl05 View Post
OP:

This is why I do not like FWB situations
same with me. OP and others, you can claim to be friends with benefits, but in reality all you are really doing is having your one night stands on a regular basis with one particular person. once one engages in sex in a relationship, it changes EVERYTHING. emotional attachments are made, regardless of the fact that some claim otherwise.
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Old 01-21-2015, 05:40 PM
 
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No commitment, no strings.
Right. He doesn't owe you anything.
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Old 01-21-2015, 05:40 PM
 
Location: Montana
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No commitment, no strings. He was what I call a classy casual guy. We would go on dates sometimes, sit around for a few hours, sometimes even see each other multiple times a day. Neither of us were ready to commit so we agreed to be casual. I didn't pressure him, i supported him, and we just had fun when we were together. No confrontations.

We spend quite a bit of time together 2-3x a week. I was having fun.

I saw him last week, 2x in one day. We sat on the couch cuddling watching our favorite show together. He asked me to stay the night, I couldn't, and so I left. I gave him a kiss goodbye and told him that I would see him soon.

We dated for over a little two months like this.

As far as I know there was nothing wrong. Then he just uped and vanished on me. Ignored my text asking me to see, and never responded after that.

I'm sorry but that is totally lame. If you can lie in bed and look me in the eye, then you can tell me you don't want to see me anymore.

Now i'm stuck here wondering what the hell went wrong.

Why does this seem to be a new breakup technique. I am sorry, but I find it to be extremely cowardly and unacceptable.

I get that we were not in a relationship, but am I wrong to feel that I was entitled to a little respect and an explanation?
Well I would never do that for even casual relationships. I like to have closure at least.
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Old 01-21-2015, 06:27 PM
 
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You're getting all bent because he hasnt answered you since yesterday? Barely one day?

You are far more involved than you know.
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Old 01-21-2015, 06:29 PM
 
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This is why I do not like FWB situations

This was no a FWB. MAybe casual dating. Maybe FB. But not FWB.
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Old 01-21-2015, 06:44 PM
 
Location: Pa
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FB or fwb sounds stupid.OP go find a "real man" one that treats you right.
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Old 01-21-2015, 07:09 PM
 
Location: The Triad (NC)
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OP go find a "real man" one that treats you right.
Or... someone enough of an adult to call when the sex is over.
Or at least until MrRight shows up.
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Old 01-21-2015, 07:13 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Or... someone enough of an adult to call when the sex is over.
Or at least until MrRight shows up.
Mmmmmm I'm the one with the wine bottle.At least my girls are with me until death.Lindsey looks good by the way.
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Old 01-21-2015, 07:15 PM
 
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Originally Posted by Chelle212 View Post
No commitment, no strings. He was what I call a classy casual guy. We would go on dates sometimes, sit around for a few hours, sometimes even see each other multiple times a day. Neither of us were ready to commit so we agreed to be casual. I didn't pressure him, i supported him, and we just had fun when we were together. No confrontations.

We spend quite a bit of time together 2-3x a week. I was having fun.

I saw him last week, 2x in one day. We sat on the couch cuddling watching our favorite show together. He asked me to stay the night, I couldn't, and so I left. I gave him a kiss goodbye and told him that I would see him soon.

We dated for over a little two months like this.

As far as I know there was nothing wrong. Then he just uped and vanished on me. Ignored my text asking me to see, and never responded after that.

I'm sorry but that is totally lame. If you can lie in bed and look me in the eye, then you can tell me you don't want to see me anymore.

Now i'm stuck here wondering what the hell went wrong.

Why does this seem to be a new breakup technique. I am sorry, but I find it to be extremely cowardly and unacceptable.

I get that we were not in a relationship, but am I wrong to feel that I was entitled to a little respect and an explanation?
Lame? Your first sentence said no commitment no strings he owes you nothing, especially an explaination why he disappeared.

This is the exact reason that "Friends With Benefits" does NOT EXIST..........someone gets attached and expects things outside of the initial "no commitments, no strings" agreement.

You were a sex partner, nothing more, he owes you nothing.
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Old 01-21-2015, 07:18 PM
 
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Originally Posted by Montanaguy04 View Post
Well I would never do that for even casual relationships. I like to have closure at least.


What part of sex only isn't anyone understanding? He owes her nothing, no closure, no phone call, no explaination, it is done, he is not responding, she should take the hint and leave the guy alone.

This is why there is no such thing as friends with benefits, it does not exist because most humans cannot handle not getting emotionally involved. Even though that is what they agreed to from the start.
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