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I get that we were not in a relationship, but am I wrong to feel that I was entitled to a little respect and an explanation?
It's funny, it always depends on what time of the day you post and who responds to your post.. Others are sifting through your post trying to find contradictions but then let you post this on a different day and this guy would be labeled all types of names.
Yes, although not "entitled" in every sense of the word, you deserve some type of courtesy. Just as it is common courtesy to wave goodbye and or open your mouth when somebody says hello, or even say thank you when given a plate of food at a local restaurant. It all comes down to common courtesy. Seeing each other for 3 Xs per week then to all of a sudden go dark is very strange. I wouldn’t simply write him off as bailing just yet, unless you know he is doing so purposely.
But still, as humans interacting with each other, it is shady of him.
OP, I am w/ you 100% like I said before. I'm kind of disappointed in the responses saying it's okay. Even if you both mutually agreed it was just no strings attached fun, you are still a human being and as a human being the very least he could have done was shoot you a quick text he was no longer interested in seeing you. To me, that's just the decent courteous thing to do no matter what kind of relationship you are in whether it's booty call, friends with benefits, casual dating, whatever.
OP isn't pining for this guy, she wasn't planning their wedding hoping he would fall for her. She just thinks it sucks he couldn't even be bothered to answer her when he decided he didn't want to continue. I would be mad too, but it is what it is. Nothing you can do but move on.
Op, just move on
I had one night stand and the guy got gf a week later.
But I found other guys.
This has nothing to do with her situation. They had been seeing each other at least 3xs per week regardless of having the label of FWB, GF, BF or any other 3 letter word. It is difficult to give the proper advice when your situation has nothing to do with the OP's
OP, I am w/ you 100% like I said before. I'm kind of disappointed in the responses saying it's okay. Even if you both mutually agreed it was just no strings attached fun, you are still a human being and as a human being the very least he could have done was shoot you a quick text he was no longer interested in seeing you. To me, that's just the decent courteous thing to do no matter what kind of relationship you are in whether it's booty call, friends with benefits, casual dating, whatever.
^^Bottom line. Common freaking courtesy.
Yes, many people do it. Heck I have even done it. But it's not cool and I openly admit that.
Ok first of all people who say i'm owed nothing I still do not agree.
You don't have to agree.
You are entitled to your opinion, no matter how wrong you actually are... I think we have all spoken pretty loudly about it, it's your right, I guess to not agree with us
That being said, a bit out courtesy is apt. However, it isn't an expectation.
That being said, a bit of courtesy, while shouldn't be expected according to discourteous folk, is more common practice among courteous folk. This is especially when two individuals have been interacting for at least 3 X’s per week. It's a relationship, regardless of the 2 or 3 letter label. That is what we as humans employ, courtesy.
Also a main reason us guys completely cut contact all of a sudden is we don't want the emotional drama (or worse) women provide when breaking it off with them. Its the worst.
I will add to this: I just recently had a friend of the opposite sex who was just that: a friend, but he started being inappropriate to the point he wanted to hold my hand, and said he wished I would be his date to his birthday party.
I am married! He knows my husband!
I walked away and never contacted him again, won't answer his phone calls or texts, etc. I cut him off at the quick.
Is it possible you went too far (in his eyes) regarding your relationship?
You weren't dating, and FWB aren't really "friends", per se.
He probably found someone he wants to be with exclusively, and he doesn't want his girlfriend to find out he had a FWB.
2 or 3 letter words doesn't exclude a person from being courteous especially after having spent at least 3 times a week with each other and hanging out. Call it what you want... It's not who we are as beings. Yes, I have done it and prolly will do it again to a lesser extent. Spending 3 times per week and cutting out without saying anything is a bit coward like. But deep down inside, I know and admit that it's not reasonable.
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