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Old 01-21-2015, 11:13 PM
 
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I'm not talking about meeting someone, deciding to get serious and then Googling. That makes sense and I always look them up online before getting serious. What I am talking about is meeting someone, never seeing them again then Googling them because of being curious.

I should explain better. Three years ago I was on Plenty of Fish and met a nice guy who at first seemed a perfect match. Like me he was never married and childless. He was looking for the one to get married and by coincidence at the mall they were having a bridal fair so we looked at it. He started talking about things like wedding cakes. It wasn't creepy, just matter of fact. We had a snack in the mall then walked around chatting. At the end we made plans to meet again but he emailed me to say he felt no chemistry. I really wasn't into him either but was going to give him another chance if he was interested. I thanked him for being honest and told him I felt the same way. We never spoke again.

Long story short I was bored and remembered his name. He apparently still isn't married but is in a relationship with a woman. She is actually several years older than him. No, I didn't friend him on Facebook or stalk him, just curious. In fact I was happy he found someone more to his liking. I've done this to several of the men I met that never went farther. No hard feelings just curious.
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Old 01-21-2015, 11:25 PM
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Location: Tall Building down by the river
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I googled a woman I went on a 1st date with and found out she got married 6 months after we met in July of 2013 and now is divorced in 2015 with a new profile on POF.
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Old 01-21-2015, 11:27 PM
 
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I googled a woman I met and found out she got married 6 months after she met me and now is divorced in 2015 and back on POF.
Things like that would make me question. I had several men I met who were desperate to marry and after they met me got married very soon afterwards. These guys were usually just looking for anyone to marry. How long ago did you meet her?
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Old 01-21-2015, 11:28 PM
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Things like that would make me question. I had several men I met who were desperate to marry and after they met me got married very soon afterwards. These guys were usually just looking for anyone to marry. How long ago did you meet her?
we met in dec of 2012 and she was married in July of 2013
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Old 01-21-2015, 11:34 PM
 
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That is sad and sounds like she wanted to marry anyone. That wasn't that long ago.
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Old 01-21-2015, 11:46 PM
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That is sad and sounds like she wanted to marry anyone. That wasn't that long ago.
Maybe it's because of the dating site commercials promoting MARRIAGE
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Old 01-21-2015, 11:50 PM
 
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Yeah those make me question the sites. Then again I did online on a religious site with all of the success stories of people who got married within a year. I have to wonder how many will end up divorced within a few years. Especially since most are long distance relationships.
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Old 01-22-2015, 12:01 AM
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Not really the same but......

.....while I was going through my divorce last year I kept track via the interwebby how our little case was progressing. There's a waiting period and certain steps are taken here in AZ. (like anywhere else, I'm sure)


Normally I would type in my name while using the court's website, but as the divorce decree stated, my soon to be ex-wife was to change back to her maiden name.

So.....I typed in HER name once to see if she complied.

Oh.

Both of her previous divorces were documented there.

And her second divorce was final 6 weeks before we met.

Double Oh.

She told me when we first met that her divorce was one year prior.

If I knew that at the time, there's a good chance we wouldn't have married.

Folks, check...double check.....triple check EVERYTHING about the person you're about to share a "lifelong" commitment with.
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Old 01-22-2015, 12:28 AM
 
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Not really the same but......

.....while I was going through my divorce last year I kept track via the interwebby how our little case was progressing. There's a waiting period and certain steps are taken here in AZ. (like anywhere else, I'm sure)


Normally I would type in my name while using the court's website, but as the divorce decree stated, my soon to be ex-wife was to change back to her maiden name.

So.....I typed in HER name once to see if she complied.

Oh.

Both of her previous divorces were documented there.

And her second divorce was final 6 weeks before we met.

Double Oh.

She told me when we first met that her divorce was one year prior.

If I knew that at the time, there's a good chance we wouldn't have married.

Folks, check...double check.....triple check EVERYTHING about the person you're about to share a "lifelong" commitment with.
Agreed. I mentioned before but one of the guys I was going to meet gave me bad vibes. I looked him up and saw he was a sex offender! Before I started dating my boyfriend I looked him up and found a lot of things, such as the fact he's been arrested before (most were misdemeanors and most happened many years ago). Another guy I was dating I Googled to find out he was married and another one had been married and divorced with a kid but claimed he was never married.
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Old 01-22-2015, 12:47 AM
 
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id'e check em out before I even went out with em you never know!! you might get some real eye openers on the person that your supposed to go out on a date with.
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