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Old 01-22-2015, 10:20 AM
 
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I'm very new to dating, and I'm not sure how I'm supposed to feel about this.

I've been on 4-5 dates with a guy. He is nice, seems like a good person. But I don't have any feelings towards him. When we make a plan to meet, it feels more like another chore to get off my list. Is it possible that I develop more feelings towards him as time goes by?
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Old 01-22-2015, 10:33 AM
 
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If you're seeing him as a chore now, it's unlikely.
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Old 01-22-2015, 10:41 AM
 
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Depends.

Sometimes it's instant, others times it takes while.

I'm not the type to date someone to see if I like them....for me the feelings come first THEN I date. It's different for everyone.
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Old 01-22-2015, 10:42 AM
 
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Everyone is different. I would have given it two dates, if there was no chemistry by then I wouldn't bother. But other people develop feelings after a much longer period of time. I'm in the camp of 'if he doesn't ring my bell within the first hour of conversation then I'm not interested".
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Old 01-22-2015, 10:51 AM
 
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If I'm not digging someone by the end of the first date, it will never happen (and generally earlier). Oh, I've gone out again (and again, and again) thinking something should happen since they were cool and pretty, but it never does.

It is there or it isn't.
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Old 01-22-2015, 11:11 AM
 
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Each situation is different; sometimes you like someone right away upon first glance; sometimes it can take years, even after they're gone to realize that you really like/love that person.
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Old 01-22-2015, 11:37 AM
 
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For me one hour is enough to understand if he is for me or not.
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Old 01-22-2015, 11:42 AM
 
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I'm very new to dating, and I'm not sure how I'm supposed to feel about this.

I've been on 4-5 dates with a guy. He is nice, seems like a good person. But I don't have any feelings towards him. When we make a plan to meet, it feels more like another chore to get off my list. Is it possible that I develop more feelings towards him as time goes by?
Too many variables, but at this point, if you don't have feelings for him, then you probably won't develop any.
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Old 01-22-2015, 11:43 AM
 
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You should definitely know after 4-5 dates with him. I use to love being alone. One way I knew I had found "the one" was that I never wanted him to leave. The other people I dated I couldn't wait and yes it felt like a chore! I would usually know right away if my date at all had a chance. I'd say if you're not feeling anything after 2-3 dates, move on.
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Old 01-22-2015, 06:32 PM
 
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Usually there must be "click". At least for me.

I will give 2 to 3 more dates...if there's a tiny spark at least.
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