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Old 01-22-2015, 05:28 PM
 
Location: Northern VA (for now)
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I don't trust anyone that isn't friends with at least some of their exes. BIG red flag.
Define friends. I would not go out my way to maintain a platonic relationship with them. If I'm forced to be around them i'd be cordial and keep it all business but not feeling the need to be a "friend" to someone who is romantic history.
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Old 01-22-2015, 05:50 PM
 
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Facebook friends with several of them, don't like hang out with them.
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Old 01-22-2015, 06:56 PM
 
Location: Jupiter
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I don't trust anyone that isn't friends with at least some of their exes. BIG red flag.
I have multiple red flags then but I don't care. My ex's cheated on me, I am not interested in being their friend. I bet they feel the same way about me.
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Old 01-23-2015, 01:55 AM
 
Location: Naptowne, Alaska
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Ex's are ex's for a reason.
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Old 01-23-2015, 02:04 AM
 
Location: Canada (I've lived in 5 different provinces)
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There are no rules for this. I have ex's I don't care to talk to ever talk to again, some that I have, and one I didn't talk to for many years but am now back in a relationship with.
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Old 01-23-2015, 02:44 AM
 
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If you don't have kids together, why?
Because not all relationships are predicated on sex? And if a relationship stops being romantic and-or sexual - this does not mean the relationship is over and you might still want to have a given person in your life?
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Old 01-23-2015, 02:48 AM
 
Location: Polynesia
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I'm friendly with my exes if we cross paths but I dont call them up to chat or hang out with them. I was friendlier and would sometimes hang out with an ex when I was single but now that I'm married, I dont contact them out of respect for my husband.I am facebook friends with one ex and when he posted an old picture of "us" on my timeline, my husband didnt appreciate it. It bothered him so I dont engage with an ex at all anymore.
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Old 01-23-2015, 03:38 AM
 
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I tried being friends with an ex but it just doesn't work out that way, I'd rather not.
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Old 01-23-2015, 04:19 AM
 
Location: Sugarland
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Because not all relationships are predicated on sex? And if a relationship stops being romantic and-or sexual - this does not mean the relationship is over and you might still want to have a given person in your life?
Just going by things I personally witnessed, people who kept in contact with exes (with no kids involved) were either still romantically/sexually interested in them, had problems moving on and letting go of the past, and allowed their ex to influence their decisions to get involved with other people. I don't communicate with anyone who I've dated in the past (unless I still had an interest in him), so I'd be wary of someone who did.
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Old 01-23-2015, 06:28 AM
 
Location: San Bernandino, CA
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I don't trust anyone that isn't friends with at least some of their exes. BIG red flag.
That's ridiculous thinking there... you must have some serious trust issues
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