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Old 01-26-2015, 01:44 PM
 
Location: Sugarland
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Good point, I can see that too.. lol
I just feel like if the person I'm dating insists on being friends with their ex, it should also be no problem for me to have male friends too no matter who they are or when I met them. I know Timberline would probably be cool with this, but not everyone would be.
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Old 01-26-2015, 01:46 PM
 
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I just feel like if the person I'm dating insists on being friends with their ex, it should also be no problem for me to have male friends too no matter who they are or when I met them. I know Timberline would probably be cool with this, but not everyone would be.

If a guy tries to dictate to you that you can't have male friends I hope you would tell him to kiss your ***.
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Old 01-26-2015, 01:54 PM
 
Location: Sugarland
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If a guy tries to dictate to you that you can't have male friends I hope you would tell him to kiss your ***.
My experience having male friends hasn't been a good one. They pretended to be my friends but it was all fake. They wanted more from me and when I made it clear that I wasn't interested (not like I hadn't been telling them that for YEARS), they moved on. Honestly, I wouldn't even want any male friends if I were in a relationship (and I don't want any while I'm single either unless I'm interested in them romantically) but I'm just making a point.
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Old 01-26-2015, 02:25 PM
 
Location: Earth
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Funny. Current partners hate when you're remotely friends with and ex. Lol

That's the reason why I don't stay friends with ex's.
I agree with this. if I broke up with a partner, I would want no further contact. Even if it's amicable, because sometimes it's awkward for a new partner when an ex lover is still around. And me personally, I am someone who would feel awkward about it. So, I wouldn't do it myself. But this is friends, people you hang out with alot and are still super close to. But an ex you see now and again, and/or are cordial to, that's fine,a nd mature.
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Old 01-26-2015, 02:37 PM
 
Location: Way up high
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It really depends. Can totally be casual if ran into each other
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Old 01-27-2015, 01:29 AM
 
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Sure, in some cases, exes can have a healthy friendship and there's nothing more to it than that. But that doesn't mean I have to approve of it or encourage it.
No one said you have to approve of it or encourage it. Generally speaking your position should be to keep your nose out of it. And you likely do. But this is a discussion forum - you asked outright why people without kids would do this - and I gave you an answer. Your only reply was to reject the answer and declare there was only ever one answer you were going to accept anyway. Which makes one question the reason you would have asked in the first place.

There is nothing wrong with maintaining a relationship with an ex - nor have you or anyone else managed to give a reason why we should think there is anything wrong with it. You disapprove of it for no apperent reason other than "Just because".

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But if your exes are so important that you'd refuse to cut contact even if it made a current partner uncomfortable, therein lies the problem.
Not seeing a problem there at all. As the user said there are numerous people who will not have a partner dictate to them who their friends can or can not be. Some people are happy to have this dictated to them - and there is nothing wrong with that either. Like Timber however - myself and a multitude of other people - would simply not enter into a relationship where someone tried to decide who are friends could be.

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Yes, I think a partner who you're serious about should take precedence over your friends.
"Take precedence" is a vague phrase which can mean too much and too little. My partners "take precedence" over my friends too - to a degree. But not to a totality where being with my partners precludes me being with my close friends.
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