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Old 01-22-2015, 03:11 PM
 
Location: Vernon, British Columbia
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Casual sex is itself an oxymoron.

Hey VanillaChocolate, your post reminded me of the "wife hack." Have you ever seen this video?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rUr1rLJVYZI
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Old 01-22-2015, 03:12 PM
 
Location: Alexandria, VA
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I had a **** buddy... uh, a couple or few errr..uh, in college. There were no feelings. I learned that merely objectifying and reducing a guy down to only what he can do to your body, and knowing you never want to socialize with him or talk on the phone or even speak in public (it should be a secret "contract" of sorts made in private when you both are liking it so good), except to say that you want some, that type of interaction works incredibly well for all parties involved.

One, particularly a woman, could never be this distant and cold and all about business with a friend. I could never imagine reducing my friend "Dave" down to just being my orgasm tool when our friendship gives so much more.

Your f--k buddies arent your friends. Dont make your friends f--k buddies. Use a d!ld0 or find a playmate.
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Old 01-22-2015, 03:12 PM
 
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Some men are the ones who end up getting feelings it's not always the women.
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Old 01-22-2015, 03:15 PM
 
Location: Copenhagen, Denmark
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Yes, it's quite common where i live. Single women I know, who have accepted it, have done so either because they know it's better than nothing or because they don't want a man around interfering in their personal lives or with their work.
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Old 01-22-2015, 03:28 PM
 
Location: in your dreams
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I think it seems like a waste of energy trying to find that "perfect" fwb that's not only great in bed but also shares a mutual disinterest in having an actual personality..lol.
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Old 01-22-2015, 03:33 PM
 
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I think so. I think so many times a FWB arrangement doesn't work out because one person has already caught feelings prior. Even if they say they're fine with FWB if they have feelings they're eventually going to want more.
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Old 01-22-2015, 03:39 PM
 
Location: Greater LA area
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I had some FWBs where the guys fell in love. Because I was too nice to them, spoiled them with cooking and stuff.

The last one didn't fall in love (it was just recently). He was super hot but we both realized we have nothing in common. We still talk (we work in the same building) and give each other relationship advice . Works well.
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Old 01-23-2015, 03:00 AM
 
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Do you think it's possible to be friends with benefits with someone without feelings developing? Some people say it's possible.
Yes. It happens all the time.

Does that mean it WILL happen in any given case? Of course not.

But if your question is merely whether it is possible. Then yes. It is.
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Old 03-19-2016, 07:58 PM
 
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It happens but its not common.
Its mostly a recipe for disaster.
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Old 03-19-2016, 09:10 PM
 
Location: Fort Bend County
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No, never.
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