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If I ever get married, they will mean something. I've never been married, but I'm sure to those who are married they do.
Some people they don't... But we can't expect everything to be amazing all of the time. As one poster said if you are expecting happiness all the time you set yourself up for misery... I agree.
My parents have been married for over 30 years. They take their vows seriously, they argue, but they still work through issues.
Some issues may break a marriage. That's between the married couple... How much they want it or not.
Marriage is way overrated. It simple means you share stuff together that's all. Don't get carried away with vows, big weddings, honeymoon, and all these movie and marketing stuff injected into your heads.
That's why 1/2 of all marriages fail because it's overrated and people's expectations does not match reality.
Guys, don't demand your wife to make your dinner, go to work, take care of kids, and give you a happy ending every night.
Girls, don't expect your man to come home every weekend with flowers, a romantic dinner, or perfect hair and six pack after a few years. Chances are your man will lose it all, no hair and no more six pack.
Personally I don't believe people are meant to stay together their whole lives.
Which is completely fine, assuming you don't, then, get married, particularly not to somebody who believes marriage to be a lifetime commitment. If you DO decide to get married, and marry someone who prioritizes commitment as a lifelong thing, you'd of course be acting in a disingenuous manner.
Look, if you can't suck it up and respect the vows YOU wanted to say and threw a whole big party about, at least don't eff up the lives of children.
Go chase your rainbow when they grow up.
Lots of people do stick out unhappy marriages for the sake of their kids. After many years, they realize that it's in fact been making their kids unhappy and establishing an example that will more seriously "eff" their kids up AND THEIR abilities to have happy marriages.
And if people are going to appoint themselves judges of how other people carefully decide to configure their families for what is best for THEIR kids, then those same people had better be aware that their own family dynamics and configurations might also be (mis) judged as a sure way to "eff up" THEIR kids.
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Lots of people do stick out unhappy marriages for the sake of their kids. After many years, they realize that it's in fact been making their kids unhappy and establishing an example that will more seriously "eff" their kids up AND THEIR abilities to have happy marriages.
And if people are going to appoint themselves judges of how other people carefully decide to configure their families for what is best for THEIR kids, then those same people had better be aware that their own family dynamics and configurations might also be (mis) judged as a sure way to "eff up" THEIR kids.
Poppycock.
It is up to you to let the kids see you act like an ass or a pleasant, cooperative team member.
Of course no kid would want to be in the middle of a war zone. So don't make a war zone or marry and then make kids with someone who is batcrap crazy and selfish.
I hear tons of horror stories about exes.
People don't just suddenly turn that way.
Maybe once in a blue moon.
The signs are there and ignored.
I don't hate any of my exes or fight with them or tell stories about how evil they are. Bc I didn't pick looney toons.
It would seem not. I know someone who slept with a married woman a few times and the irony was he was an extreme Ten Commandments right-winger. I gave him crap about it every time.
I don't beleive in any higher power, but I sure wish if there was he or she would smite this fool.
It just seems like I'm constantly hearing/reading things about people who don't seem to take their marriage vows seriously...at all.
For example, a friend of mine threatened to leave her husband if he didn't quit his job so that they could move to her hometown.
I saw a thread here a little while ago where people were telling a woman to leave her husband because he didn't buy her a Christmas present.
Also, when googling how to remove fingernail polish from a sofa (don't ask), I came across the desperate cries of a woman whose two-year-old had gotten nail polish all over her mother-in-law's sofa and whose husband was "thinking about leaving her" because of it.
SERIOUSLY?
When I said my marriage vows, I vowed to stay with my husband "for better or for worse."
Leaving someone for cheating or something like that is understandable, but really...over Christmas presents or a ruined sofa?
Anyone have any thoughts on this???
Preach!! Apparently some people commit as long as the marriage is convenient or easy for them. That whole selfless part was never part of the equation for those folks. Marriage is no cake walk but a redo is not going to change anything. We all have our issues. It's how we work through them and how we grow from it that is the variant. I can either throw In the towel or become a better wife and ultimately individual. Since I made a lifelong promise I choose the latter.
Preach!! Apparently some people commit as long as the marriage is convenient or easy for them. That whole selfless part was never part of the equation for those folks. Marriage is no cake walk but a redo is not going to change anything. We all have our issues. It's how we work through them and how we grow from it that is the variant. I can either throw In the towel or become a better wife and ultimately individual. Since I made a lifelong promise I choose the latter.
And you've been married for how long?
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