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Old 01-23-2015, 09:42 AM
 
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Hi, has anyone ever used these flat rate DIY divorce sites? Wondering if they're reputable, effective, and whether there are any hidden charges.

I live in NC and have met all the divorce criteria. Been separated for 2 years and despite trying my hardest to work it out in that time, sadly it's time to call it quits.

I've downloaded the NC divorce packet but am having a hard time trying to figure out where to begin. It does not look like a form I would just print and fill out.

TIA for any help.
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Old 01-23-2015, 09:52 AM
 
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I wouldn't use an online divorce site. I see North Carolina offers a Pro Se divorce packet. Your best best if all agree is go to your county court house and talk with court clerk. They will not offer you advise. They will, however, help you to ensure the paperwork is in order.

This link has a pretty good outline of the procedures and what you need. It wouldn't hurt to have an attorney look at it or take care of the paperwork.

192.168.1.1:8181/http://www.nccourts.org/Courts/CRS/Policies/LocalRules/Documents/1621.pdf
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Old 01-23-2015, 09:55 AM
 
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Depending on what all needs to be done with the divorce, it really might be good to bite the bullet, pay a little extra money and get a professional to review everything. Do what you can by yourself first to save some money, but get someone who knows the law to look over it.
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Old 01-23-2015, 10:13 AM
 
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This is a case where an attorney is money well spent. If you can come to the attorney with everything hashed out and everyone agrees it is pretty cheap to get done.
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Old 01-23-2015, 01:09 PM
 
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I wouldn't use an online divorce site. I see North Carolina offers a Pro Se divorce packet. Your best best if all agree is go to your county court house and talk with court clerk. They will not offer you advise. They will, however, help you to ensure the paperwork is in order.

This link has a pretty good outline of the procedures and what you need. It wouldn't hurt to have an attorney look at it or take care of the paperwork.

192.168.1.1:8181/http://www.nccourts.org/Courts/CRS/Policies/LocalRules/Documents/1621.pdf
Thank you. This packet does not include my county of Wake. I believe I already have the correct packet but am not sure what I'm supposed to fill in vs. what might just be a sample. I do have a call in to an attorney for guidance.
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Old 01-23-2015, 02:02 PM
 
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Hi, has anyone ever used these flat rate DIY divorce sites? Wondering if they're reputable, effective, and whether there are any hidden charges.

I live in NC and have met all the divorce criteria. Been separated for 2 years and despite trying my hardest to work it out in that time, sadly it's time to call it quits.

I've downloaded the NC divorce packet but am having a hard time trying to figure out where to begin. It does not look like a form I would just print and fill out.

TIA for any help.
I had an attorney draw up the property settlement agreement, as that becomes the terms of the divorce in Virginia. But I used forms from a website for everything else.

I had only one small issue. It turns out that the county I divorced in required a mention of the county I was married in, but there was no line for it on the form. That one little detail held things up three weeks, but in the long run, wasn't a problem.

The property settlement agreement cost me about $1,200 (no kids, no house, one car, no assets, easy-peasy), but the rest only cost me $70 plus filing fees with the court.
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Old 01-29-2015, 02:20 AM
 
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Don't rely on manuals. You're just wasting your money. Serious issues need to be treated seriously. Get a lawyer.
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Old 01-31-2015, 03:31 PM
 
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I'm in the process and have not used anything online. Found it helpful to sit down with an attorney and iron things out. I think face to face is much better. Good luck.
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Old 01-31-2015, 03:40 PM
 
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Getting a divorce done "right" is pretty important if you don't want big issues coming back to haunt you. Unless the two of you can sit down side by side and do all of that together you don't have a chance. I'd suggest you do all the basic paperwork and agree on the property settlement, THEN consult a lawyer when 90% of the work is already done. To be fair, you should BOTH have lawyers so that HER interests are represented (your lawyer is just that, YOUR lawyer).
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