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Old 01-29-2015, 04:22 PM
 
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Good to know. I personally don't like parties and I don't want to meet women there. I haven't approached a woman in 3 months, I don't like the party type.
She didn't state it was a loud, raucous party and simply attending a party doesn't imply that one who attends a party is a "party type." I don't particularly go for wild partying these days, but I attend my friend's annual St. Patty's Day party, which is anything but loud and obnoxious. She and her husband and most of their friends and family are quiet intellectual types and I've met some really nice people there. Don't be so quick to judge!
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Old 01-29-2015, 05:18 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Good to know. I personally don't like parties and I don't want to meet women there. I haven't approached a woman in 3 months, I don't like the party type.
You don't like parties? All parties? How many people constitutes a party? If people ask you over, do you inquire as to how many people are going to be there and then decline if it's more than 3 or 4? What is the "party" type? If someone goes to a few parties a year - including birthday parties and dinner parties, does that make them the "party" type? I had some of my neighbors over for my birthday this year. There were 9 of us ranging from my age to 80 years old. Do you consider us the "party" type?

My point was that the "average" guy had a better shot at me than the "hot" guy did but he didn't take it.
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Old 01-29-2015, 05:27 PM
 
Location: Jupiter
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You don't like parties? All parties? How many people constitutes a party? If people ask you over, do you inquire as to how many people are going to be there and then decline if it's more than 3 or 4? What is the "party" type? If someone goes to a few parties a year - including birthday parties and dinner parties, does that make them the "party" type? I had some of my neighbors over for my birthday this year. There were 9 of us ranging from my age to 80 years old. Do you consider us the "party" type?

My point was that the "average" guy had a better shot at me than the "hot" guy did but he didn't take it.
I've been to parties before at my college. I was so bored at them that I told my friends it was not my scene. Unless it's a birthday party for a friend or family member, I won't attend one. I prefer staying and watching Netflix.
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Old 01-29-2015, 05:32 PM
 
Location: Jupiter
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She didn't state it was a loud, raucous party and simply attending a party doesn't imply that one who attends a party is a "party type." I don't particularly go for wild partying these days, but I attend my friend's annual St. Patty's Day party, which is anything but loud and obnoxious. She and her husband and most of their friends and family are quiet intellectual types and I've met some really nice people there. Don't be so quick to judge!
I'm not judging. If I came off that way, I apologize. I've tried going to parties before and I just didn't like it. Drunk women passing out and the guys make asses of themselves.
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Old 01-29-2015, 05:43 PM
 
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I'm not judging. If I came off that way, I apologize. I've tried going to parties before and I just didn't like it. Drunk women passing out and the guys make asses of themselves.
Were you the sober guy? That might explain it.
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Old 01-29-2015, 05:51 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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I've been to parties before at my college. I was so bored at them that I told my friends it was not my scene. Unless it's a birthday party for a friend or family member, I won't attend one. I prefer staying and watching Netflix.
Well, you are missing the point of my story - and you are also missing my point about "parties." There are lots of different types of parties. The party that I was at in my story was at a friend's house - and I was sitting on the porch outside talking to two guys. There were only 3 of us on the porch. There are some parties that I enjoy and some that I don't. I don't think anyone has ever called me the "party" type - but then again, I'm not sure what that even means. But I'll let my 80 year old neighbors know that they are the "party" type!
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Old 01-29-2015, 05:53 PM
 
Location: Jupiter
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Well, you are missing the point of my story - and you are also missing my point about "parties." There are lots of different types of parties. The party that I was at in my story was at a friend's house - and I was sitting on the porch outside talking to two guys. There were only 3 of us on the porch. There are some parties that I enjoy and some that I don't. I don't think anyone has ever called me the "party" type - but then again, I'm not sure what that even means. But I'll let my 80 year old neighbors know that they are the "party" type!
I understand what you're saying completely. The more outgoing guy made a move on you and the shy guy didn't.
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Old 01-29-2015, 09:06 PM
 
Location: Northeast, US
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I understand what you're saying completely. The more outgoing guy made a move on you and the shy guy didn't.
The OP wishes shy guys would be more like the outgoing guys and somehow overcome their inherent shyness, modify their personalities, and become extroverts which of course is never going to happen.
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Old 01-29-2015, 09:08 PM
 
Location: North Carolina
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The OP wishes shy guys would be more like the outgoing guys and somehow overcome their inherent shyness, modify their personalities, and become extroverts which of course is never going to happen.
Yes, it would be great if that could happen. But no, I don't expect that shy guys will do this.

What I'm saying is, it's sad that the behavior of a shy guy can create a lose-lose situation for both him and the girl he likes.
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Old 01-29-2015, 09:13 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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I recall a sort of running theme with the OP and men that are shy....

Simple solution..... go for the guys that are outgoing

Win win... some poor shy guy doesn't' have to jump thru hurdles and the OP get what she wants.....
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