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Originally Posted by Singlelady10
I just think there are more options for people than ever. Those options are more acceptable today than they were 30 years ago. Divorce is even more acceptable and the norm.
It isn't the norm though. Most people that marry, remain married, by a good number.
They marry over thirty because they're finally in an economic position (they finished school, possibly grad school, and are into their careers), they've matured (20 somethings are generally (not entirely) pretty immature emotionally) and they met someone they wanted to marry. This is a great thing. People with a BS (at least) and who marry in their 30s or later have very low divorce rates. they also tend not to have too many children. Its a great stabilizer for society.
Thanks a lot for your comment. According to your comment most of people have üniversity degree in US(open to question, it depends on the unemployment of graduateds) and the economy of USA is not as well as we thought.. It's a big problem seems so senseless. You got a 78(average) year life and the beginning of puberty 13(I assume as the average) you have to live single in most part of your life (I certainly don't criticize sexually)
I'm not able to comprehend that.. Why does a person marry over 30?(no problem average 35 for you) It's too late,isn't it? It's really too late. Actually we should talk about age at first marriage.. It's a problem or not in terms of everything, personal phsically,psychologically and for the state(you know population) The average of age atfirst marriage is 29 in US. I actually don't live in US but this rate is close to my country's.
Why are you not able to comprehend that? What's to comprehend? Too late for what? Most of my friends got married around 31-33 years old. I have some friends that got married much later and some that got married much earlier.
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Originally Posted by timberline742
They marry over thirty because they're finally in an economic position (they finished school, possibly grad school, and are into their careers), they've matured (20 somethings are generally (not entirely) pretty immature emotionally) and they met someone they wanted to marry. This is a great thing. People with a BS (at least) and who marry in their 30s or later have very low divorce rates. they also tend not to have too many children. Its a great stabilizer for society.
I agree. I got married at 28 but I was the first out of most of my friends. My husband was the last out of his college friends but they were all from the south.
Both sexes are vital, of course, but historically men have always been the most expendable (less valuable). If push comes to shove and we are talking about the survival of the human race, then the woman is more valuable. It takes nine months for a woman to develop and deliver a single baby. While one man is enough to fertilize many many women.
Hmmm! If there was a scenario where a handful of men are running around impregnating hundreds of women each, wouldn't we then have numerous unrealized half siblings running around and potentially committing incest in the next generation?
Genetic realities seem to indicate the value is in gender balance.
Bob and Sue get married and divorce. Then Bob and Sue remarry (Bob to Jane and Sue to Bill). That's 3 marriages.
If Bob and Sue don't get divorced and stay married, that's just 1 marriage. One marriage is less than three marriages, and that makes the marriage rate lower.
This is why a more relevant statistic is the percentage of adults within some age-bracket who are married, those who are cohabiting, those who have romantic relations but are not living together, and those who are genuinely single (unattached to anyone romantically).
By way of analogy, a brick thrown through a window increases GDP, because it generates economic activity in the form of insurance claims and construction to rebuild the windows and to clean up the mess. But it is not productive economic activity. In the same way, divorce and remarriage increases the number of marriages.
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Originally Posted by timberline742
They marry over thirty because they're finally in an economic position (they finished school, possibly grad school, and are into their careers), they've matured (20 somethings are generally (not entirely) pretty immature emotionally) and they met someone they wanted to marry. This is a great thing. People with a BS (at least) and who marry in their 30s or later have very low divorce rates. they also tend not to have too many children. Its a great stabilizer for society.
I agree that lower divorce rates is stabilizing for society, but I'm not sure about delay of marriages. Married couples drive the real estate industry and its associated industries (home furnishings, home repair and so forth). Delay of marriage in many cases means delay of consumption, curtailing the consumer activity that drives some 75% of our economy.
Also, how many Americans have a 4-year college degree, let alone a graduate degree? Many of us have social circles where the vast majority have impeccable educational credentials. But this is not the mainstream. At my workplace, nearly everyone has a BSE or above; some one fourth of us have PhDs. But in the township where I reside, local statistics show 16% of adults over 25 have a 4-year degree, and less than 5% have a graduate degree of any kind.
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Originally Posted by Singlelady10
I just think there are more options for people than ever. Those options are more acceptable today than they were 30 years ago. Divorce is even more acceptable and the norm.
The having of options is a mixed blessing. It means greater potential happiness for the enterprising and the energetic, but more stress and uncertainty for the phlegmatic and aloof.
Scientists have discovered how to reproduce the chemical in spermatoza that causes the egg to divide and the female to reproduce. They've created successful pregnancies in rats without a male.
Juuuuust gonna let that hang in the thread for awhile <please insert ominous music in the background of this post>.
But have those scientists followed the process all the way through yet? Sure they have gotten cell division to occur but are there other substances in the spermatoza that are critical and come into play later in the reproductive process? That chemical may initiate cell division but can it replicate the DNA and do whatever else required to turn an egg into a little human?
I'm no scientist but I believe that reproduction from only one set of DNA (in this case the mother's) would have worse consequences that what normally occurs from incest.
Why do you guys like to quote studies and use them as excuses to not even get into the game?? Who cares if the divorce rate were 90%? I sure as hell wouldn't think that chances are that if I got married, I'd probably end up divorced...I'd get married and put the effort in, to be in the 10%....Why? Because out of all relationships....guy friends, female friends, family, children, colleagues.....a healthy relationship with a woman, is the most satisfying. Because of that, it shouldn't matter what the studies say...you do what it takes...
Some people really should break their google....that's the excuse engine for fail. Instead of searching about life, why not live it....and if you make a mistake, learn from it.....experience is more rewarding that searching for relationship stats.
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