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Old 01-26-2015, 10:28 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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I just think it is shallow to date some one long term that you do not find attractive .
You must not have read the whole thread. People were saying it's the opposite of shallow. You give them a chance, one or two dates, to see if they might be awesome in other ways.

But I guess that's not for everyone. Whatever.
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Old 01-26-2015, 10:36 PM
 
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You must not have read the whole thread. People were saying it's the opposite of shallow. You give them a chance, one or two dates, to see if they might be awesome in other ways.

But I guess that's not for everyone. Whatever.
For me if the girl is way to into me I get uninterested like it is too easy . Also seeing that most woman I talk to are ten or so years younger so her being attractive helps.
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Old 01-26-2015, 10:39 PM
 
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I just think it is shallow to date some one long term that you do not find attractive .
It's reality. Women are being pc about what turns them. In reality, they love muscles, charisma, and wealth. Maybe you've found just the right girl who cares for none of those but she's the exception not the rule. Nothing wrong with this mentality. Just all the fluff about wanting only nice, caring guys and true love is a bit insulting to our intelligence, however.
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Old 01-26-2015, 11:14 PM
 
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I couldn't be in a relationship with somebody that I couldn't picture making out with and sleeping with..it just wouldn't work for me..
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Old 01-27-2015, 12:02 AM
 
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People say its all about personality and not about looks, but I feel like being attracted to somebody is part of why we like a particular person. What do you think? Do looks come into play when looking for a significant other? Or is it all about personality and it doesn't matter if they are ugly/unattractive?
For me there has to be a level of physical attraction. Of course I've been out with men who are physically attractive, but it isn't enough to build a relationship on if we lack in personality compatibility. My SO is very physically attractive but his personality/our compatibility has made a relationship possible.
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Old 01-27-2015, 09:45 AM
 
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Wow. Life is weird.
Shoshana Roberts would freak out if she saw what I deal with. LOL!!!
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Old 01-27-2015, 10:27 AM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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It's reality. Women are being pc about what turns them. In reality, they love muscles, charisma, and wealth. Maybe you've found just the right girl who cares for none of those but she's the exception not the rule. Nothing wrong with this mentality. Just all the fluff about wanting only nice, caring guys and true love is a bit insulting to our intelligence, however.
Are muscles, charisma, and wealth bad things? Are people that are in shape, charismatic, and successful bad people? And does finding those qualities attractive mean women are liars or bad people? And does finding those qualities attractive mean that women are unable to appreciate any other qualities in a man? And does it mean that other qualities can't take precedence when found in the right person? So you honestly believe that the ONLY men that women are honestly attracted to are muscly, charismatic, and wealthy - and that everyone else is just lying and not really in love with their spouse? What a sad little world you must live in.
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Old 01-27-2015, 10:44 AM
 
Location: Herndon, VA
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I don't know, this is my first post in this forum.
Looks like you've been around long enough to figure out how to use the search feature of the forum.
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Old 01-29-2015, 01:24 AM
 
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Looks like you've been around long enough to figure out how to use the search feature of the forum.
You posted just to say that?
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Old 01-29-2015, 06:53 AM
 
Location: Oklahoma
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No.

That said, I can become fixated on one aspect of a person's looks and the rest I will develop an attraction to. Personality is really important to me. I'm really attracted to Seth Rogen because I think he has a cute smile/face and an awesome personality, seems really fun, and is super funny. So all that together, while I may not specifically love how hairy he is, overall I'm attracted to him. To give an example.
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