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Old 01-25-2015, 04:31 PM
Location: Central IL
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth View Post
How did you get yourself into a marriage with this guy? Didn't anything like this come up during dating or the engagement?

This is not a normal person.

All you can do is just walk away and refuse to engage when he starts up. Just say, "Yes, dear", "fine, dear", and walk out of the room. Consider moving in with your parents, if there's even a remote chance that's an option.
It is hard to argue with yourself...so I agree - just walk away. If he's arguing about where to put the picture, leave him with the hammer and nails. Just that much less work for you. If he wants something done a certain way then by all means, let him do it. Save confrontation to the few things that are important to you. Are you sure you don't like to argue?
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Old 01-25-2015, 05:00 PM
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Originally Posted by Dewdroplet76 View Post
Almost never hurts ^ . More than likely there is something else eating at him. Work stress ? Lack of sex, lack of money ? etc. So he takes it out on you . It sounds like you let him. The therapy will help you both learn how to communicate better. But both have to be willing to try.
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Old 01-27-2015, 09:51 PM
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This is a perfect relationship for some reverse psychology. You should have told him to hang it in the bedroom. He would definitely hang it in the living room.
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Old 01-28-2015, 10:28 AM
Location: State of Being
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Reverse psychology doesn't work. The guy has mental health issues.

There is no way to get along with this type of personality.

The only thing you can do is walk on eggshells, something it appears you have already figured out.

If it is indeed true that you cannot leave (and unless you are held captive, you can always leave - it just may be very difficult to do - especially if he has threatened to kill you or take your kids) . . . if you believe you are in a situation where it would be more dangerous to leave than stay . . . then there is only one way to handle this and that is to interact with him as little as possible.

Don't start conversations. Agree with everything he says, no matter how outrageous.

He has anger issues and I fear that he is violent and you just aren't telling us (which I can understand).

Just stay out of his way as much as possible and start plotting how you will leave, even if that means a long term plan of YEARS in order to get out intact. If he has cut you off from friends and family, then you really need to consider reaching out to a women's shelter and having an emergency escape plan, as men who act this way can become scary very quickly.
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Old 01-28-2015, 05:13 PM
Location: The Island of Misfit Toys
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Sounds like a controlling narcissist with a dash of obsessive compulsive disorder. I'd strongly suggest cutting your loses and getting away from him.

Beyond that I would demand he see a psychiatrist. But that's just me.
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Old 01-28-2015, 05:32 PM
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Did he stop mentally developing during high school?

Also, if you realize how he will react every time to such situations, why do you bring them up or participate in the argument?
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Old 01-28-2015, 06:03 PM
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Originally Posted by SD4020 View Post
Married MR Right. Didn't realize his first name was Always.

LOL!!! Tried to rep you.
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