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Old 01-25-2015, 11:40 PM
 
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Have you been in a forbidden relationship where your family or friends did not approve?
Did work in the end ?
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Old 01-26-2015, 12:15 AM
 
Location: Windsor, Ontario, Canada
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Nope. I generally find if my family or friends don't approve of someone, I probably don't either.
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Old 01-26-2015, 12:36 AM
 
Location: San Antonio/Houston
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Nope. If many people see the same red flags, then the relationship is not going to happen. Love is blind, but "bystanders" can assess such relationship without personal emotions.
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Old 01-26-2015, 12:50 AM
 
Location: USA
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I don't know what you mean by 'forbidden', but if two ADULTS who are SINGLE/UNMARRIED get together, it nothing forbidden at all.

Me 30 and my BF 29, we are two adults who both are single/umarried, no kids. MORALLY there nothing wrong with us getting together, our only sin was he is not Chinese.

My ignoratnt Chinese mother just simply hate him, and disapproved him. Mom doesn't even care to know his name, let alone know anything about him or his life. She doesn't even want to hear anything related to him, she refused to meet him.

What funny is mom still want to CONTROL me when I been out on my own for more than a decade.
I move out of her house and survive on my own without a penny help from her for the past 12 years. Yet she still think she have full control over my life like when I was a baby.
She still trying to control who I date, her 'dictatorship' ways until today still haven't change.

Well forget her, and I don't need my family to approve my relationship neither. They have to get out of the old traditional mindset of their Chinese cutlure, and accept that "Interracial Relationship" happened alot here in USA.
If they force their daughter to married a Chinese man, well move back to China then.
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Old 01-26-2015, 01:39 AM
 
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If you are going through a phase of experimentation, then I'd suggest not letting the 'rents/family in on the whole situation. I can tell you that in most cases...Forbidden...cheating based relationships tend to not work out. It would bode the third party to not get emotionally attached at all, since you will be the one who gets surprised when that lover doesn't want to play anymore. If you are going to dip your toe, do so with an understanding, that you are sport/recreation/distraction...if you can do that, it can be great, no strings, casual, nobody to have to answer to, just fun.
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Old 01-26-2015, 03:30 AM
 
Location: Guangzhou, China
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My girlfriend is Chinese, from a traditional family in Hunan. We met here in China and fell in love. We're quite happy together, but her parents have spoken their disapproval. We haven't met yet; they *do* want to meet me, though, and we will most likely meet over the Spring Festival in late Feb.

We basically just go about our business as per normal and she tells her parents to stop if their phone conversations ever get on the topic of how she needs to dump me and move back to Hunan to marry their friend's son. Thankfully, they've mostly gotten the point. Her friends and brother like me. It's just the parents... also, my family is totally OK with her.
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Old 01-26-2015, 06:29 AM
 
Location: San Bernandino, CA
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It's 2015, the only "forbidden" relationships are if you are >18 and she is <18 or inter-species...

Who gives a rats a$$ about interracial stuff these days. If you love each other, who cares. If your folks or her folks cant get behind you, f-them!
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Old 01-26-2015, 03:45 PM
 
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Have you been in a forbidden relationship where your family or friends did not approve?
Did work in the end ?
Define forbidden.. is one of you married? Under age?

if you are both adults....I can't imagine a forbidden relationship.
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Old 01-26-2015, 03:46 PM
 
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Nope. I generally find if my family or friends don't approve of someone, I probably don't either.
So if you family and friends only approve of guys from a certain area of the world...you are going along with their prejudice...or are you just prejudice as well?
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Old 01-26-2015, 04:10 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Never! because I simply dont care what anybody thinks.
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