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Old 01-27-2015, 06:05 PM
 
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I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and we have a 2yr old daughter together. He is a good guy. But we have been having problems lately.
*Our sex life is boring
*He ignored my feelings for so long that I've become distant now that he wants to give me attention
*He is unapproachable when it comes to discussing issues
*When I do approach him (with issues) he blows me off
*I have to do everything, or beg for things to get done
*There is no romance

I don't feel like trying anymore. What Should I do?
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Old 01-27-2015, 06:10 PM
 
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So you aren't married? Then it should be easy to dissolve your relationship. I am curious though about why you decided to have a child with someone who seems so incompatible with you. It appears you jumped into family life at the point you were just getting to know each other.

Cut your losses with him, and spend the next 10 years focusing on raising your child and learning to be wiser and more independent.
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Old 01-27-2015, 06:10 PM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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Ordinarily I think boyfriends and girlfriends should break up if they want to. You're not married, you made a decision not to get married probably for this very reason. But you do have a kid. It sounds like you got pregnant almost immediately and don't have a future together, but kids do need their dads. What do you hope to do?
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Old 01-27-2015, 06:18 PM
 
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Talk to him about these issues. Be honest and non confrontational, and own up to your part in this mess. Go to couple's therapy if you can't work it out yourselves.

You owe it to your child to give it every last possible chance. He doesn't abuse you, he isn't cheating or lying... YOU are becoming bored and discontent so YOU need to be proactive and fix this relationship.
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Old 01-27-2015, 06:21 PM
 
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I think I should end things. I wanted to work things out but every time I try I get shut out.
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Old 01-27-2015, 06:24 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I think I should end things. I wanted to work things out but every time I try I get shut out.
Well, there you go.
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Old 01-27-2015, 06:27 PM
 
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I think I should end things. I wanted to work things out but every time I try I get shut out.
What have you tried?

I'm sorry you're bored, but you're making a decision that will seriously affect your child's future.
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Old 01-27-2015, 06:40 PM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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It sounds like you got pregnant almost immediately and don't have a future together
Yep.

OP, are you both willing to get counseling?
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Old 01-27-2015, 06:41 PM
 
Location: Raleigh NC
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For the sake of your child, you need to go to counseling, with or without him. Counseling will help you plan realistically for which direction you want to take.
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Old 01-27-2015, 06:48 PM
 
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I have tried talking to him directly. I don't beat around the bush. He either says nothing, blames it on me, or says that i'm overreacting.
I will look into counseling.
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