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Old 01-28-2015, 10:46 AM
Location: Jupiter
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Originally Posted by lycos679 View Post
Says you. I say: ask a stupid question and get a sarcastic answer.
Good to know.

Old 01-28-2015, 10:51 AM
Location: State of Transition
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Originally Posted by TiltheEndofTime View Post
It sucks because we were having a great conversation and it just...ruined it.
Why not tell him he missed the point of your question, and that you were turning the tables to show him how rude he was, but the point went over his head. Then say the two of you aren't compatible, delete and block. (You might as well get some satisfaction from this sleazy turn of events.)
Old 01-28-2015, 11:01 AM
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Originally Posted by TiltheEndofTime View Post
So I just started okcupid yesterday. I was talking to a guy. We shared similar interests and then out of the blue, he asks me how many men I have had sex with.

What is with guys and these questions? Don't people realize it is rude to ask that kind of question? I parroted the question back to him hoping he would realize just how out of line he was for asking. It was a major turn off, as I'm not looking for sex, but a serious relationship.

He went on to say he has had sex with over a dozen women and the last time has been about ten months ago. I wish he would have gotten the hint to not answer or ask such an intrusive question.

Should I drop him? Chock it up to foot-in-mouth syndrome? Oh yeah, and he also made a sexual reference about "loving" black women and how he had sex with one and it was the best sex he ever had. Another major turn off.
all guys dont ask nnsense like that

i never asked any sucker ish like that... as far as im concerned i dont wanna think about anything some other dude did to you

also dont want you telling me bout your 'ex' sorry, not interested

any guy ask you nonsense like that it tells you hes insecure... also whatever number he gave you was doubled and +4'd
Old 01-28-2015, 11:05 AM
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Tell him this : I hate to brake it to you put most woman rather go Christmas Eve fishing with Scott Peterson than hang out with you.

That is what the OP needs to tell this guy .
Old 01-28-2015, 11:13 AM
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Originally Posted by Anabasis X View Post
As a man who understands todays gender dynamics, I would never ask that question - because an honest answer, would likely be very disappointing. However, mans interest in womans promiscuity is a matter of very basic instinct, not something that men choose to care about. Womans promiscuity is very strongly correlated to her likelihood of cheating on her future husband, thus it is of utmost importance. Women instinctively know this, and its the reason why they tend to underestimate the number of their past sexual partners, when answering such a question. You not wanting to answer this question, tells all men everything they need to know. If you've had 3 or 4 partners in your life, you wouldn't even bring it up. It comes from the simple fact, that women give birth, and men want to be sure that children that are born are actually theirs. Its a very basic concept, and it is what makes men human.
Spot on, and that's why the PC police are coming out to declare you 'wrong.'

Recent study from the National Marriage Project observed a strong correlation between women's number of sex partners and their satisfaction with their marriage.

To wit, the more partners, the less like she was to be happy in her marriage.
Old 01-28-2015, 11:17 AM
Location: Montana
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Originally Posted by Dewdroplet76 View Post
Just tell him you've had sex with over 500 men - usually 2 or 3 at a time.
Originally Posted by 49ersfan27 View Post
That's a woman who won't get a call back.
It is like when a guy is getting tired of attracting gold diggers and a woman asks him what he does for a living and he is a lawyer or a doctor.

"I work at burger king"
Old 01-28-2015, 11:31 AM
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Originally Posted by david0966 View Post
Any documented evidence to back this up? Does this also apply to men who are promiscuous? Sounds like a load of BS to me.
Yes, more than one scientific study proving this fact. Here is one you can begin with.


Let me repeat, it is scientifically proven that there is strong correlation between womans level of promiscuity and her inability to stay loyal to her future husband or monogamous partner. This is why men do not want to marry Mod cut., you dig? And No, this does not apply to men too. Please spare me the "men do it too", PC bullcrap. Im here to share the truth with you, ignore it at your own peril.

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Old 01-28-2015, 11:34 AM
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Originally Posted by lycos679 View Post
That's all well and good, but why would someone ask if they are just chatting online in an attempt to get to know the other person. That baffles me. Something like 90% of communication is non verbal, so that question is best asked and answered in a more intimate, face to face conversation.
I agree with that, seems a bit out of place and definitely tactless. Maybe its some guy with lotsa options, weeding out Mod cut. or a guy who doesn't know what he's doing. No idea.

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Old 01-28-2015, 11:35 AM
Location: Brooklyn,NY
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He's nervy and rude.
Old 01-28-2015, 11:37 AM
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Originally Posted by iknowftbll View Post
"PC police?" Please. you are insulting your intelligence with comments like that. So anyone who disagrees with you or the post you quoted is now the PC police? Sounds very insecure to me. But you be you, smuggler.
Yes, you're coming out, along with several others, guns blazing and stating that a woman's partner count doesn't matter, which is the standard PC police mantra.

Men instinctively know that it does, and a woman with a high N count is not a good prospect for LTR/marriage.
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