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Old 01-28-2015, 09:02 AM
 
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So I just started okcupid yesterday. I was talking to a guy. We shared similar interests and then out of the blue, he asks me how many men I have had sex with.

What is with guys and these questions? Don't people realize it is rude to ask that kind of question? I parroted the question back to him hoping he would realize just how out of line he was for asking. It was a major turn off, as I'm not looking for sex, but a serious relationship.

He went on to say he has had sex with over a dozen women and the last time has been about ten months ago. I wish he would have gotten the hint to not answer or ask such an intrusive question.

Should I drop him? Chock it up to foot-in-mouth syndrome? Oh yeah, and he also made a sexual reference about "loving" black women and how he had sex with one and it was the best sex he ever had. Another major turn off.

 
Old 01-28-2015, 09:03 AM
 
Location: Canada
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I'm hoping "should I drop him" is a rhetorical question.
 
Old 01-28-2015, 09:03 AM
 
Location: Pa
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Lol tell him try a dude.
 
Old 01-28-2015, 09:06 AM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Just tell him you've had sex with over 500 men - usually 2 or 3 at a time.
 
Old 01-28-2015, 09:06 AM
 
Location: San Bernandino, CA
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I have had plenty of women ask me stupid stuff too. Or hide that they were married, yeah... or don't tell you that they have a kid or two... that's a popular one with you women...

Would I ask the question? No... it's not relevant to me, especially at that juncture

So let me ask you the question, does the question itself upset you that much, or the fact that you are embarrassed by your "number"??
 
Old 01-28-2015, 09:06 AM
 
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I'm hoping "should I drop him" is a rhetorical question.
It sucks because we were having a great conversation and it just...ruined it.
 
Old 01-28-2015, 09:11 AM
 
Location: D.C.
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Yeah, delete and forget. Any guy that asks that, especially that soon is not worthy of your time. Personally, I never ask this question at all, it's really none of my business. As I've said before, some things are better left unsaid. This is one of them.
 
Old 01-28-2015, 09:11 AM
 
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I have had plenty of women ask me stupid stuff too. Or hide that they were married, yeah... or don't tell you that they have a kid or two... that's a popular one with you women...

Would I ask the question? No... it's not relevant to me, especially at that juncture

So let me ask you the question, does the question itself upset you that much, or the fact that you are embarrassed by your "number"??
If by being single for the last four years and having had a big fat one is something to be embarrassed about. I'm not a ****, if that is what you are asking...
 
Old 01-28-2015, 09:11 AM
 
Location: Canada
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It sucks because we were having a great conversation and it just...ruined it.
It does suck, but on the bright side, at least you found this out right up front and don't have to waste anymore time.
 
Old 01-28-2015, 09:13 AM
 
Location: Wandering in the Dothraki sea
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It sucks because we were having a great conversation and it just...ruined it.
Look at it like he saved you a lot of unpleasantness down the road, he sounds like a creep.

The great thing about OKCupid is there's TONS of guys out there, I met my current guy on it.You'll find him
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