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So, I went on a date last weekend and another date with a different guy last night. I've known both guys for a year or so through professional avenues.
I find them both attractive and while I enjoyed my dates with both of them, I literally felt nothing.
I've been single for 2 months now and am not looking for a relationship, but I might as well have been on a date with my mother. What's wrong with me?
It's normal. Why wouldn't it be? Were you expecting to hit it off with both guys? That's an unrealistic expectation. Is there a reason you don't know this? Have you been in a relationship since HS that recently broke up?
On the rare occasion I find someone attractive whether it's due to their appearance or personality characteristics, I try and consider if they would be suitable for a relationship. 100% of the time, I feel nothing. Most of the time I wouldn't even be able to consider them to be suitable as friend, but more of an enhanced acquaintance where sex could be mutually exchanged.
I say this with all due respect, but in your case, maybe it's you that's the issue. There might be some underlying psychological problems that are preventing you from feeling anything towards these other people since it's 100% of the time.
On the rare occasion I find someone attractive whether it's due to their appearance or personality characteristics, I try and consider if they would be suitable for a relationship. 100% of the time, I feel nothing. Most of the time I wouldn't even be able to consider them to be suitable as friend, but more of an enhanced acquaintance where sex could be mutually exchanged.
Good luck with your STD/pregnancy goals of 2015. "enhanced aquaintance"? Call it what it is: a hookup
I say this with all due respect, but in your case, maybe it's you that's the issue. There might be some underlying psychological problems that are preventing you from feeling anything towards these other people since it's 100% of the time.
Are you also Anonymous725? Because that's who I was responding to there.
However, I responded twice specifically to your OP and follow up response. I indicated that A) it doesn't sound like you're ready for dating and B), the so-called "dates" you went on seem more like you were just hanging out with a couple of friends. Since neither of you were looking for anything romantic, that's usually the definition of "friends hanging out".
Before you go off killing yourself over trivial matters, try this national suicide prevention hotline out: 1 (800) 273-8255.
Are you also Anonymous725? Because that's who I was responding to there.
However, I responded twice specifically to your OP and follow up response. I indicated that A) it doesn't sound like you're ready for dating and B), the so-called "dates" you went on seem more like you were just hanging out with a couple of friends. Since neither of you were looking for anything romantic, that's usually the definition of "friends hanging out".
Before you go off killing yourself over trivial matters, try this national suicide prevention hotline out: 1 (800) 273-8255.
No, I'm not anon. I do apologize, I was reading quickly and didn't realize you were responding there.
You've only been single for a couple months (I have no idea how long your prior relationship was)
You picked work "friends" to date - probably a bad idea on both counts....
You're not even looking for a relationship
So what's the rush? Wait until you're at least a little excited about going on a date. Did someone tell you that you "ought to be over" the last person or "you need to get out there"? Do what YOU want to do...or at least listen to yourself after the fact.
So, I went on a date last weekend and another date with a different guy last night. I've known both guys for a year or so through professional avenues.
I find them both attractive and while I enjoyed my dates with both of them, I literally felt nothing.
I've been single for 2 months now and am not looking for a relationship, but I might as well have been on a date with my mother. What's wrong with me?
Two months is a very short time. You may still be "recovering" from your last relationship, sort of in a state of numbness.
Also, just because these guys were attractive and there was familiarity there, doesn't mean that they "do it" for you. Chemistry is something that either IS or ISN'T. It's often based on very random things. Looks are only a part of it, and sometimes looks don't factor in at all.
So, don't beat yourself up over not feeling anything for these two. Rather, give yourself some time alone, to settle back into yourself, and start dating again when you find someone who really sparks your interest.
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