Went on holiday and have upset the guy I'm dating. (guys, cheating)
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Go appologize. Tell him honestly what you feel, and ask for another try. I don't know how old you are but you both sound like a couple of 15 year olds, with all the game playing. Face it, two people trying to play hard to get doesn't work.
I've been dating this guy for about 4 months, it has been going really well. He treats me great and is really sweet, respectful and affectionate. I have been a little bit frustrated at how things were moving quite slowly - we only saw each other about once a week at best and he was quite slow to respond to my texts, taking up to a day sometimes. However, in person things were really great and right before Xmas he met my parents and then my extended family and got me a lovely Xmas gift (I didn't get him anything).
After Xmas I went on holiday for 3 weeks and before I left, he talked about how he really wanted me to keep in touch while I was out there and how he was going to miss me. He also called me right before I boarded my flight to say bye. Once I was on holiday however, I decided to just have fun with my friend and I didn't get in touch with my guy for a few weeks, and ignored his attempts to contact me. I also got with another guy in a club while I was away, but I haven't told him this.
When I came home last week, I messaged him to say I was back and he seemed a little bit cold, but said work was really busy for him and asked when he was going to see me. We then didn't speak for a couple of days, which is really unusual for us. We made plans for Thursday night, which he then cancelled because he said he got stuck at work. This turned into a fight because I didn't believe him as he made no attempt to reschedule and is now ignoring my texts.
I'm really upset about all this and really want to get back to the way things were before I left. I'm well aware I messed up and probably hurt his feelings but I don't know how to get through to him now. He's very, very sensitive and quite non-confrontational, so I think he will ignore me for a long time now if not forever.
If anyone has any bright ideas about how to fix this, that would be great.
I think you blew it. You acted like a the female version of a jerk. People don't magically get over being treated like trash.
Funny, I had the same thing happen to me this past summer only it was the man who didn't contact me for a good 3 weeks. Then he came back and wanted to pick up again and I was very nice but made it clear that we would not be continuing to date. He was sad but too bad so sad.
Basically he realized just how little he means to you when you completely ignored and blew him off. He has definitely gone cold to you. If he ever found out you had sex with another guy that would just be the finishing deal. My best advice would be to swallow your pride and tell him you're sorry, tell him what he means to you (if anything), and ask if you can get back together again.
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