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Old 02-01-2015, 01:00 PM
 
Location: North Carolina
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I sent a message to this girl on a dating site and left her my number so we can talk. So she called me but I noticed her number was blocked on the caller id and was like........."ok she probably needs to get a feel for me first before giving out her number" So we talked for the first time tonight on the phone and then after about 40 mins she was about to get ready for bed. So then I said........"Ummm can I have your contact #"

Then she went through this whole thing about how she had scary experiences with guys she met through the site and would rather meet me face to face before giving her me her number. So now I am going to sleep on this and will most likely wake up and decide I no longer have interest. I thought the purpose of talking to someone the first time on the phone was to determine if you WANT to give the guy your number.


And I don't think she understands that she is not the only woman on the site and once someone who gives me her number who looks just as good as her or better I am moving on lol Something won't allow me to meet a woman face to face if I don't have their contact number so we probably won't meet.

Any other guys come across any paranoid women like this online?
She is not being paranoid. You're not even considering where SHE might be coming from here.

Why would you want to give someone your number, which is a DIRECT way to contact and access you, if you don't even know them and have never met them face to face? Someone can sound one way over the phone and be a completely different way in person.

I know many women who will not give their number out until they have met the guy in person and determine he is ok. That's not paranoid, it's normal.
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Old 02-01-2015, 01:03 PM
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Location: Tall Building down by the river
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Personally I don't blame folks for being paranoid/cautious when it comes to meeting new people.

Too may people like to lie and are crazy these days.
Well the phone is what you use to determine if someone is a NUT and the fact that the conversation without her number I have no more interest.
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Old 02-01-2015, 01:03 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Well the phone is what you use to determine if someone is a NUT and the fact that the conversation without her number I have no more interest.
Maybe she already determined if someone is a nut.
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Old 02-01-2015, 01:05 PM
 
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Damn. With the amount of garbage you make threads on, how you dismiss so many women for things that aren't even important, you can still find women to talk to you and have some interest. I can't even make women ****ing smile. **** this world.
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Old 02-01-2015, 01:06 PM
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Location: Tall Building down by the river
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She is not being paranoid. You're not even considering where SHE might be coming from here.

Why would you want to give someone your number, which is a DIRECT way to contact and access you, if you don't even know them and have never met them face to face? Someone can sound one way over the phone and be a completely different way in person.

I know many women who will not give their number out until they have met the guy in person and determine he is ok. That's not paranoid, it's normal.
Well that means we should be going DUTCH then since I don't have her number yet correct?
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Old 02-01-2015, 01:08 PM
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Location: Tall Building down by the river
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Damn. With the amount of garbage you make threads on, how you dismiss so many women for things that aren't even important, you can still find women to talk to you and have some interest. I can't even make women ****ing smile. **** this world.
I learned you can make a woman smile when you make fun of them
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Old 02-01-2015, 01:08 PM
 
Location: North Carolina
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Well that means we should be going DUTCH then since I don't have her number yet correct?
Why are you taking this so personally? If you were a true gentleman, you would RESPECT the fact that there ARE crazy guys out there and that a woman has to be careful when doing online dating.

From there, you would WANT to pay for the meal to show her that you ARE a trustworthy person. You would want to make things BETTER for her.

Instead, you're making it all about YOU and the fact that your ego is bruised because she won't give you her number yet.

Seriously.
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Old 02-01-2015, 01:11 PM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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Friends have each other's contact numbers AFTER they become friends. You are a complete stranger to her. You could be a stalker or a lunatic. In fact, there is a pretty good chance for one of those...
She's really proving that her level of caution is warranted. I don't think she's the one being paranoid in this scenario.
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Old 02-01-2015, 01:13 PM
 
Location: St Thomas, US Virgin Islands
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She's really proving that her level of caution is warranted.
Another disastrous encounter avoided and she may never know how lucky she was to have dodged the bullet.
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Old 02-01-2015, 01:38 PM
 
Location: The #1 sunshine state, Arizona.
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The feedback from this site has been kind of wacky

One girl from chicago sends me her number

Another girl from PA is too scared to


When she was ending the conversation I was letting her know indirectly that we need to talk longer the next time because that's the only way you will be comfortable with me. But I can myself talking on the phone with one girl and she beeps in with her "unknown caller" and I will be like....."whatever"

lol
I see we are back to playing, "line 'em up and lose 'em."
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