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Lately i ve been through a lot of physical pain (im ill, ny illness is not important since i dont wanna discuss it in a public forum). I live with my boyfriend, the most caring, lovable person in the world, and poor sweet thing he is doing everything to cheer me up. He cooks for me, he buys and bring home books i love so i can read, he bring magazines, download movies i wanna see so we watch together. He goes to work 8 hours since 6 am and comes home and cooks for me (whatever i ask) does the dishes, and on top of that he is super sweet and affectionate the whole time, meanwhile im the complete opposite.
Since im in so much pain, i dont feel comfortable with him hugging me, kissing me, etc. We havent had sex in 2 weeks. I ve been ill for 2 weeks. I cant help but being in a bad mood and with a sad face akl the time. He is always smiling at me, being sweet, bringing me surprises, and, since i can barely move, im always in the bed with a grumpy face 😞.
I feel bad for him. I want to give back something. On may 10th, it was our aniversary. He prepared a ton of surprises for me that day, 5 different very special thoughtful presents that made reference to our wonderful 1 year relationship.
I didnt bought him anything cause i was already in pain. Havent moved much since. Havent bought a present.
I wanna do something that doesnt requiere me go walk somewhere to buy a gift. Maybe something i can do in the house and surprise him when he returns from work?
I dont know what to do, i ve been so focused on myself the last 2 weeks that i forgot to thank and smile to the amazing person thats taking care of me and living with me.
Any suggestion?
Im having a hard time smiling or being happy, but i want him to know i adore him and im thankfull for all he does.
A simple "I love you and appreciate everything you're doing, Honey" usually is enough for a man that loves his woman. Also, tell him as soon as you get better, you'll give him the best oral he's ever gotten
How about ordering something online for him? Augie mentioned Amazon. They're great for that, but if not Amazon, another website. You're typing here, so you can punch in a credit card number and address.
About the sex, it's only 2 weeks. That's nothing in the grand scheme of things. Women who have just given birth are cautioned to wait longer than that. Same for women who have had any kind of abdominal surgery. When I had staples holding my insides in, I managed a few tricks for an ex, but full-on sex was out of the question for nearly 2 months. So don't stress about that.
Just remember all he's doing for you now. There may come a day when it happens to him, and you'll want to be as compassionate and loving toward him as he is to you now.
I know you don't want to discuss your illness, but it would be helpful for us to know if it's something you are expected to fully recover from or if it's a more or less permanent thing.
If it will be over soon, find a way to thank him as best you can now and then when you are all better do something BIG.
If it's going to be ongoing, you should probably sit down with him and discuss the longterm ramifications on your relationship and what you can do to minimize damage to it. Outside help? Better pain control?
There are companies online that make and delivery gift baskets for men too. Most aren't in baskets, but toolboxes, golf buckets, whatever. Order something for him that's really surprise and specific to his hobbies or likes would be good.
Can you enlist the help of a friend to mail things for you? Write good old-fashioned love notes to your boyfriend and mail them to his work or something.
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