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Old 02-03-2015, 04:19 PM
 
Location: Queens, NY
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So almost at the end of this past December, me and this girl were talking on Tinder for a few days. My last message said moving it over to text (plan was to immediately ask her out afterwards). She didn't respond, and I just assumed she wasn't that interested, scared to meet someone off an app, or didn't feel comfortable giving out a number. Well, a few hours ago, she sends me a message saying "Hey I just saw your messages ." Then another message saying "How have you been?"

Do you think she was interested in another guy, and it didn't work out and she's now coming back to me? Or, did she genuinely not see my messages? I'll respond back to her (not the type of person to spite someone, or hold a grudge), but I find it hard to believe in just over a month she never saw my messages.
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Old 02-03-2015, 04:27 PM
 
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over a month is a long time to say you didn't notice... if it was a few days to a week maybe she didn't log into Tinder but a month- definitely shady.
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Old 02-03-2015, 05:08 PM
 
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She probably met up with some other guy, or got back with an ex. Now that has ended, and she is monkey branching once again. She may even string you along and disappear again. This is why I choose to not participate in today's dating game on most occasions. If relationships weren't difficult enough back in the day, throw in technology where they now have 1000 men messaging them versus what may have been 10 guys before social media. It is no wonder they can't make up their minds, and I'd rather not participate in that mess.
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Old 02-03-2015, 06:38 PM
 
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The way people are glued to their smart phones, nobody doesn't "just get" a text, email or FB notification over a month later.

You know that though, so go with your gut and move on.
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Old 02-03-2015, 06:41 PM
 
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I know nothing of Tinder but I can tell you that this past weekend I took notes at a meeting and emailed it to myself because I don't have a writing program on my little laptop. The notes were GONE until exactly twelve hours later. They showed up in my inbox after I had suffered so much aggravation and ended up writing a report and sending it off without my notes. So there you go with technology.
My advice - give her the benefit of the doubt. If I am wrong, I will admit it but what do you have to lose? Go for it and good luck!
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Old 02-03-2015, 07:02 PM
 
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A month is way too long. As others have said - she probably had other guys in the picture and now that things have fallen through with them (or him, if it was just one guy) she wants to see if she can pick up where she left you.

I'd next her.
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Old 02-03-2015, 07:07 PM
 
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Since no one is a mind reader, we cannot possibly imagine what was going on in this person's life that she never followed through on the young man's offer. What ever happened to giving someone the benefit of the doubt? Why is everyone so defensive?
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Old 02-03-2015, 07:12 PM
 
Location: D.C.
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Normally I'd say forget about her and move on, but during the holidays people tend to get distracted visiting family and travel. In this case I'd give it one more try, but if she disappears for that long again then I think it's pretty obvious what you need to do.
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Old 02-03-2015, 07:16 PM
 
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High Five David!
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Old 02-03-2015, 07:17 PM
 
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I want to say give it another shot because of the holidays but most people's holidays ended by the 2nd or 3rd of January.

Even during the Holidays I had my phone on hand at all times. I saw every message that was sent to me. I'm not sure how tinder works because I have never used dating apps or tried OLD, if I was younger, like 16 I probably would respond in a hurry. I really don't know if you have to log in or you get messages despite not being logged in to Tinder.

Now that I am older, I wouldn't give that a second thought. So me personally I wouldn't even entertain it and move on.

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