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Old 02-11-2015, 10:36 AM
 
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I get that you feel like you're at a disadvantage because you're a man and women "expect" you to pay for things. I would just ask you, if you ever have a daughter who starts dating men, with all things being equal would you encourage her to date the guy who's willing to treat her to an Outback Steakhouse dinner or a guy who's adamant about not paying for dates because he thinks women shouldn't receive special treatment?

Can we vote for #3? The guy that treats his daughter well and has much better taste than taking someone to a chain restaurant on a date?
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Old 02-11-2015, 10:38 AM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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So some dudes just like traditional gender roles until the check comes.
I doubt they're dating burly chicks in flannel who cuss and have a bunch of guy friends.
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Old 02-11-2015, 10:38 AM
 
Location: Sugarland
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Can we vote for #3? The guy that treats his daughter well and has much better taste than taking someone to a chain restaurant on a date?
Some of us girls don't mind chain restaurants.
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Old 02-11-2015, 10:39 AM
 
Location: Denver, CO
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I get that you feel like you're at a disadvantage because you're a man and women "expect" you to pay for things. I would just ask you, if you ever have a daughter who starts dating men, with all things being equal would you encourage her to date the guy who's willing to treat her to an Outback Steakhouse dinner or a guy who's adamant about not paying for dates because he thinks women shouldn't receive special treatment?
I'd teach my daughter to do unto others as she'd want them to do unto her. I would teach her that she should never expect anything to be given to her from anybody, but that if she were to receive something as a gift, it means that that person probably cares for and respects her and she should reciprocate if she feels the same about that person.

These are very basic life lessons. I thought, at least.
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Old 02-11-2015, 10:41 AM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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I doubt they're dating burly chicks in flannel who cuss and have a bunch of guy friends.
Come on, you know they are dating women who don't shave their pits, their legs, or their nether regions. I mean, we are almost considered equal now - so let's stop doing all these silly "woman" things.
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Old 02-11-2015, 10:44 AM
 
Location: Denver, CO
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Come on, you know they are dating women who don't shave their pits, their legs, or their nether regions. I mean, we are almost considered equal now - so let's stop doing all these silly "woman" things.
Tit for tat, I guess.

If you want to be treated like a delicate flower, then you better be smokin' hot, freshly shaved, and be very thin.

God forbid you're overweight and have a bad complexion.
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Old 02-11-2015, 10:45 AM
 
Location: Sugarland
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I'd teach my daughter to do unto others as she'd want them to do unto her. I would teach her that she should never expect anything to be given to her from anybody, but that if she were to receive something as a gift, it means that that person probably cares for and respects her and she should reciprocate if she feels the same about that person.

These are very basic life lessons. I thought, at least.
Well, I'd tell my daughter not to waste her time on any man who isn't willing to treat her like the special lady that she is.
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Old 02-11-2015, 10:53 AM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Tit for tat, I guess.

If you want to be treated like a delicate flower, then you better be smokin' hot, freshly shaved, and be very thin.

God forbid you're overweight and have a bad complexion.
You missed the point. But that's okay.

And I have never had issues with dating. I've never had issues about who pays for the check. I've never had issues about men being mad about equal rights. I've never had issues about any of this stuff. The guys that I dated were thrilled to be dating me and vice versa. I've never met anyone who thought that being able to vote and wanting equal pay meant that I wanted to be a man or be treated like a man in my romantic life. I'm very womanly and the men that I've dated have actually loved that about me! The men I dated actually wanted to make me feel special.

And very thin doesn't equal smoking hot. Women can be smoking hot and curvy.
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Old 02-11-2015, 10:54 AM
 
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I doubt that.

Ok...so if you think older women are less likely to have an entitled attitude, date them. If you want a young, hot twenty-something, be ready and willing to pay for the date because some other guy certainly will.
^ This is what SLS said about 150 posts ago.

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Tit for tat, I guess.

If you want to be treated like a delicate flower, then you better be smokin' hot, freshly shaved, and be very thin.

God forbid you're overweight and have a bad complexion.
Sounds like you two are on the same page now.
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Old 02-11-2015, 11:42 AM
 
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Well, I'd tell my daughter not to waste her time on any man who isn't willing to treat her like the special lady that she is.
And I suppose you would teach her to also treat the man she's going out with as a special man that he is, correct?
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