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Old 02-10-2015, 11:59 AM
 
Location: San Bernandino, CA
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What if she asked me on the date? Anyone who thinks I'm paying for a date I was asked on is crazy. Not a damn thing to do with being cheap.
What difference does it make who asked who?

Must be just how you were raised...
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Old 02-10-2015, 12:01 PM
 
Location: Sugarland
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What if she asked me on the date? Anyone who thinks I'm paying for a date I was asked on is crazy. Not a damn thing to do with being cheap.
If you like her, you should be glad that she took the initiative to ask you out (since you guys claim it's so rare). You could pay for you both to show your appreciation.
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Old 02-10-2015, 12:05 PM
 
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I find it ironic when women complain that if a man doesn't pay for their expenses then those guys are terrible and cheap. As if this doesn't apply to them who don't want to pay.

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If you like her, you should be glad that she took the initiative to ask you out (since you guys claim it's so rare). You could pay for you both to show your appreciation.
Yes. A girl asking a guy out is still rare.

If you are going out with a guy who asked you out and you accepted because you obviously like him then how about showing some appreciation as well and pay for both?
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Old 02-10-2015, 12:10 PM
 
Location: Sugarland
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Yes. A girl asking a guy out is still rare.

If you are going out with a guy who asked you out and you accepted because you obviously like him then how about showing some appreciation as well and pay?
I told you, I have paid for dates. I don't believe that whoever asks should pay. I'm just saying in the case of a woman asking a man out which is a rare event for many, why sit back and say, "Ok, since she asked, she needs to pay for the date, open the car door for me, pull out my chair, etc.) Just be happy that a woman you like asked you out.
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Old 02-10-2015, 12:13 PM
 
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I told you, I have paid for dates. I don't believe that whoever asks should pay. I'm just saying in the case of a woman asking a man out which is a rare event for many, why sit back and say, "Ok, since she asked, she needs to pay for the date, open the car door for me, pull out my chair, etc.) Just be happy that a woman you like asked you out.
Agree. And like I have said before, I don't care if a girl asked me out or not. We both agreed to go out, its OUR date so why not have both of us participate in all aspects of it including expenses? I could sit on my comfy chair and think that since she asked me out then I should just sit like royalty and expect her to bow down before me and do it all while I just simply show up to the date. No. Yes I have been asked out when I am in Asia and I still participate with expenses back and forth.
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Old 02-10-2015, 12:17 PM
 
Location: Sugarland
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Agree. And like I have said before, I don't care if a girl asked me out or not. We both agreed to go out, its OUR date so why not have both of us participate in all aspects of it including expenses? I could sit on my comfy chair and think that since she asked me out then I should just sit like royalty and expect her to bow down before me and do it all while I just simply show up to the date. No. Yes I have been asked out when I am in Asia and I still participate with expenses back and forth.
I have no problem with how anyone chooses to handle date expenses. We've had these discussions many times on here and it always boils down to women don't have to pay for dates because there will always be another guy willing to pay for them. If you (meaning any guy reading this) don't want to be that guy, don't be.
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Old 02-10-2015, 12:24 PM
 
Location: The last fluffy cloud on the horizon
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What if she asked me on the date? Anyone who thinks I'm paying for a date I was asked on is crazy. Not a damn thing to do with being cheap.
Don't worry, Diss. There's no risk of that happening anytime soon
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Old 02-10-2015, 12:26 PM
 
Location: Northern VA (for now)
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If you like her, you should be glad that she took the initiative to ask you out (since you guys claim it's so rare). You could pay for you both to show your appreciation.
If I was interested in being a total sap and sucker I would but I ain't so I'm going to hold firm on this since it is the one situation I can use a rule that is usually used against men for my benefit.
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Old 02-10-2015, 12:27 PM
 
Location: Northern VA (for now)
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Don't worry, Diss. There's no risk of that happening anytime soon
I've had this happen few times honey. Don't get twisted.
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Old 02-10-2015, 12:27 PM
 
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I have no problem with how anyone chooses to handle date expenses. We've had these discussions many times on here and it always boils down to women don't have to pay for dates because there will always be another guy willing to pay for them. If you (meaning any guy reading this) don't want to be that guy, don't be.
Oh yeah. Not the first one this topic pops up. There will always be a guy willing to pay, there will always be a woman who will be easier to have sex with, there will be a woman who won’t complain about doing house chores, a woman who will take initiative out there, etc. These topics and attitudes have always been a part of this forum and out there.

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Defend this foolish logic.
It's as logical as saying "women should cook and clean because...well...because!"
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