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I told you. A woman is not in a situation where she needs to pay for a date because it's not hard to find a man who will treat her. If you're a man who can easily find a woman who will treat you and that's what you want, just focus on those women, but don't be surprised if other women don't follow suit.
That's right, the majority of women will prefer men to pay for their expenses, take initiative, and everything else. As a woman you get to enjoy those dating privileges. Yes, I am not surprised if most women don't follow suit. That's just how it is I guess. There are things that just can't be changed.
I would imagine women paying to avoid leading the guy on are being nice.
A woman paying simply because she is having a good time and finds it courteous to participate in expenses is what I find nice. I have gone out with girls who are simply that nice even on first dates.
That's right, the majority of women will prefer men to pay for their expenses, take initiative, and everything else. As a woman you get to enjoy those dating privileges. Yes, I am not surprised if most women don't follow suit. That's just how it is I guess. There are things that just can't be changed.
This "privilege" is very small as far as I'm concerned. Be grateful that you're a man and enjoy everything that comes along with that.
This "privilege" is very small as far as I'm concerned. Be grateful that you're a man and enjoy everything that comes along with that.
Not sure if those privileges are small. Imagine, you go out with a guy you like (if not you wouldn't be going out with him) who takes you out for dinner, drinks, an event, maybe surprises you with flowers when he picks you up and at the end of the evening takes you home. If things later on evolve to a formal relationship you get to get proposed, your ring, your wedding, etc. How nice is that for you as a woman? Shouldn't be seen as something small. This whole first date payment system should be nice to women and it makes sense why the majority defend it.
In my case I enjoy going out with someone who doesn't really care for certain "dating rules" and is just ready to enjoy each other's company and be as much part of the date as I am in all aspects. As for the first date payment system, I don't think there has been a rule when it comes to me and the girls I have dated. We just do as we feel at the moment. Whoever takes out the wallet first, same thing in the next activity of the day/evening.
Personally, I don't spend a lot of time worrying about it. If I invite I expect to pay. If I didn't invite I expect to cover my expenses. (I've never had a date insist on paying for all of the expenses so I can't really comment there.) I don't get worked up over it either way though. Last time I went on a first date, I invited and covered dinner. My date offered to pay for the cover at the piano bar we went to after. I accepted. In my experience insisting on paying for everything can be off-putting to some women. If someone is merely bluffing by offering to pay, I don't worry about it. They're already being blatantly dishonest on a first date. If that falls apart, no loss as far as I'm concerned.
The one who asks out, pays. That the rule on my book. However it will a nice gesture if you contribute, for example at the movies, you pay for the popcorn, the sodas and whatever it is at the counter, that way he feels you are helping him a bit.
We men love when a woman contributes, even if we ask out, that the way of saying you aren't selfish.
Good luck.
This is pretty much how I feel. I'm always willing to pay (especially for a first date that I asked her out on), but it is always a nice overture for the girl to offer to throw in on occasion. For a guy like me, it leaves an impression that the girl actually wants to be there to spend time with me, as opposed to taking advantage of a free night out. This is especially the case after several dates in with a particular person. Personally, I'd probably stop dating a girl if, after several weeks of dating, she never offered to pay for anything on our nights out.
I don't think he has the same perspective as you. I'd rather buy flowers too.
If that is so. Men would gladly have periods if women paid. Men would have periods if women could have shorter lives as men. See, same logic.
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