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And some women will. I've already said that I've paid for dates before, but I will not pay for the entire first date because I have no interest in breaking that tradition.
The only time I'm going to accept money on a first date from a girl who I asked out is if I think she's boring or unpleasant. If she doesn't offer any money, then she just won't be hearing from me again and that's the way it'll end.
And this is why I'd always advocate a very cheap first date. Ice cream, coffee, a few drinks perhaps. Nothing over $20 for the entire date, that's for sure.
The only time I'm going to accept money on a first date from a girl who I asked out is if I think she's boring or unpleasant. If she doesn't offer any money, then she just won't be hearing from me again and that's the way it'll end.
And this is why I'd always advocate a very cheap first date. Ice cream, coffee, a few drinks perhaps. Nothing over $20 for the entire date, that's for sure.
I don't see a problem with this. I don't even know what you guys are talking about when you mention "fancy dates" because I've never been on one. A casual, non-extravagant date shouldn't be a big deal to pay for. Heck, I take my mom out to eat every weekend and I always pay and it's really not difficult at all.
And some women will. I've already said that I've paid for dates before, but I will not pay for the entire first date because I have no interest in breaking that tradition.
Fair enough. I was just clarifying that you are, in fact, saying the person with the penis should pay. There's nothing wrong with sticking with that if it's working for you, but let's not deny what it is.
Fair enough. I was just clarifying that you are, in fact, saying the person with the penis should pay. There's nothing wrong with sticking with that if it's working for you, but let's not deny what it is.
I'm not saying he should. I'm saying my belief is that if he liked me enough, he would. I don't think most men here are disputing that.
I don't see a problem with this. I don't even know what you guys are talking about when you mention "fancy dates" because I've never been on one. A casual, non-extravagant date shouldn't be a big deal to pay for. Heck, I take my mom out to eat every weekend and I always pay and it's really not difficult at all.
I, for one, have made the mistake of paying way too much on a first date. But that was my fault for allowing it to happen. Fancy dates don't happen until well after we've gotten to know each other. One of the "fanciest" dates I've had for my most recent romantic interest was a nice salmon dinner at my place, with wine and cocktails for later.
For a first date, I'd propose a walk in the park with ice cream or coffee, a free museum day in town, happy hour drinks, etc. That way you can focus on the real importance: talking and getting to know the person. Money spent should not be a concern at all on a first date.
If you don't see the contradiction in that statement, i don't know what else to tell you.
I'm sure if she actually met someone who she thought was great, she wouldn't care either way who paid. But from what I gather from her post history, she hasn't really had much luck with dating. I could be wrong though, but that is what I've gathered.
If all you've been exposed to are a bunch of frogs, of course you're going to have this sort of mentality. However, if you met someone who blew your socks off, do you really think you're going to pass on them because of something so trivial, especially considering what you've had to go through to get to that point? I doubt it.
If you don't see the contradiction in that statement, i don't know what else to tell you.
Would and should don't mean the same thing.
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I'm sure if she actually met someone who she thought was great, she wouldn't care either way who paid. But from what I gather from her post history, she hasn't really had much luck with dating. I could be wrong though, but that is what I've gathered.
I've been on lots of first dates. Sometimes the guys paid and sometimes we split. I never decided not to see anyone again based on the fact that he didn't pay for the date, but I probably thought to myself that he wasn't that interested in me (which was probably true).
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If all you've been exposed to are a bunch of frogs, of course you're going to have this sort of mentality. However, if you met someone who blew your socks off, do you really think you're going to pass on them because of something so trivial, especially considering what you've had to go through to get to that point? I doubt it.
Yet you'd be willing to pass on a great girl because she doesn't pull out any money on a first date?
I'm sure if she actually met someone who she thought was great, she wouldn't care either way who paid. But from what I gather from her post history, she hasn't really had much luck with dating.
Interesting. That's why I clarified that there is nothing wrong with her stance if it's working for her.
If what she's doing isn't working for her, then it's time to try a different approach. This goes for anyone in dating, or in any life endeavor, really.
Interesting. That's why I clarified that there is nothing wrong with her stance if it's working for her.
If what she's doing isn't working for her, then it's time to try a different approach. This goes for anyone in dating, or in any life endeavor, really.
Regardless of how many failed first dates I have, I'm not going to start offering to pay for more than my half of the date. Men aren't going to think "Oh that's cool she paid for me. I have to ask her out again!" They're going to take out the woman that they actually like and pay for the date. lol
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