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Well, semantics are important. Incredibly important. They're the definitions of words. The things we use to communicate. If we don't get them right, communication is broken.
But it's important to be able to interpret what people mean, even if their verbage is incorrect. Without trying to sound elitist, it's the burden of the superior intellect to translate from the lowest common denominator.
Put another way, if someone is obviously using the wrong words, I can pretend like I don't know what they mean because they didn't use the right words, or I can gauge my response accordingly based on what they meant. In the cases where that isn't possible online, I simply don't offer a response.
So what you do you care? You're going to get all butthurt because some guys want women younger than you?
Some things simply have to be dealt with. Not every woman wants bald guys, so I go after the ones who do (as I'm bald myself). I'm not gonna sit around and cry about how I'm not every woman's type.
No, I'm going to laugh at them because in that time I found someone and they are still on dating sites. Years from now I'll be married and they'll still be on the dating sites.
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But it's important to be able to interpret what people mean, even if their verbage is incorrect. Without trying to sound elitist, it's the burden of the superior intellect to translate from the lowest common denominator.
Or, if someone is obviously using the wrong words, I can pretend like I don't know what they mean because they didn't use the right words, or I can gauge my response accordingly based on what they meant. In the cases where that isn't possible online, I simply don't offer a response.
That, or we can correct their usage/misuse.
Just playing along, I think, does a disservice to those that misuse the terms. It provides endorsement of their misuse.
This is true, if for no other reason than you don't know any of these other things when you first see someone. I see a hot woman, I'll approach her. If, during that encounter, she gives me reason to believe that the other things are lacking (intelligence, especially...but many of these factors), then it won't last much longer.
Exactly.
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I guess. It doesn't to me. I can't imagine "going after" or hitting on someone until I've already determined there is chemistry. I'm not going to randomly ask someone out that I haven't spoken to. That's pretty odd. What is the point.
Well, "going after" in this context, to me, means approaching someone with romantic or sexual interest. I've been hit on by plenty of men for nothing more than my appearance. And by hit on - I mean anything from getting asked out to simply approaching me with the intent to get to know me better. And these men ran the gamut from never seeing me before in their lives to knowing me very well.
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People are getting caught up in semantics. I wouldn't randomly ask someone out like that. But I WOULD randomly start talking to someone just because they're hot, and go from there.
I have been randomly asked out like that. I don't think it's a common thing to do but it does happen.
Just playing along, I think, does a disservice to those that misuse the terms. It provides endorsement of their misuse.
Just MO.
Oh, I definitely agree with the underlined. But your post isn't "correcting", it's "playing dumb". I don't mean any offense by that, but I can't think of another way to put it. It's like you're pretending to not know what they mean just so they sound stupid. And while that's plenty fun, it drags threads like this out painfully.
No, I'm going to laugh at them because in that time I found someone and they are still on dating sites. Years from now I'll be married and they'll still be on the dating sites.
How do you know they're still on the dating sites if you're not on the dating sites?
I have been randomly asked out like that. I don't think it's a common thing to do but it does happen.
I should have mentioned that as well. It totally happens. I don't do it, nor do the guys in timberline's circle, but it happens.
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