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I'll tell you one reason a lot of guys wink. It's not that they're lazy. It's that they don't want to go to the trouble of writing a message and having it go unanswered. Guys know how competitive online dating is. They know that women are generally bombarded with messages and probably ignore the majority of them. Guys also know that sending some generic form letter won't impress a woman. But a guy who's taken the time to craft a well-thought out letter only to have it go unanswered will start to feel like it's not worth the effort. That's why he'll resort to sending winks.
I can accept that. But I have to say, it cuts both ways. I have sent out what I consider to be thoughtful ice-breakers that went nowhere real fast, to about 95% of non-responders, and the rest at least took the time to use the canned response Match set up to decline politely. So, the issue is not unique to men, just as an aside.
I still don't get why you're on OLD if you can neither send nor receive messages.
BTW, I had six catfishers this week only. Of those where I was fairly sure about my suspicion, three profiles were shut down by Match.
Back to the winks. How do you guys perceive a woman winking at you online?
I think you're reading too much into it. If a guy winked at me and I liked the looks of him, I would wink back. But I'd figure that if he really wanted to connect, he would reach out by messaging. OLD is too impersonal and fast-paced to get analytical about it, just enjoy the ride.
I think you're reading too much into it. If a guy winked at me and I liked the looks of him, I would wink back. But I'd figure that if he really wanted to connect, he would reach out by messaging. OLD is too impersonal and fast-paced to get analytical about it, just enjoy the ride.
But that's just what I meant. Winks are sort of meaningless. Unfortunately, I heavily rely on OLD in order to meet people. So the ride, thus far, hasn't even started. But I'll stay boarded for the time being. It builds a thick skin, that's for sure.
I agree, winks are ridiculous. Send me a thoughtful email. Something other than "Hey there".
Regarding the repeated profile views ... it may not be the user looking at you.
I was on one of Match's other sites (they own a bazillion of them).
I complained to the "customer service" department about the repeated profile views that I as being tagged with - meaning it looked like I kept viewing the same person's profile over and over again. It's the website. It wasn't me. Some of the users I would NEVER even consider looking at their profile, yet the website tagged me as looking at them.
I put customer service in quotes because they never helped me. The only way I found to get around the problem was the block the user.
But that's just what I meant. Winks are sort of meaningless. Unfortunately, I heavily rely on OLD in order to meet people. So the ride, thus far, hasn't even started. But I'll stay boarded for the time being. It builds a thick skin, that's for sure.
That it does. It makes IRL dating seem like a walk in the park!
I do it if its a woman I think is way out of my league, or I see her in my daily matches and make an instant judgement I want her to know I'm interested. Never amounts to squat though, so maybe I'll stop. I just know when I email a woman who I think is gorgeous, I also can't set myself apart and she won't respond. OLD is a nightmare, as is being OLD
If a guy winks at you instead of sending you a message, you can dismiss him as lazy. But keep something else in mind. He's basically telling you that he doesn't think you're worth the effort. That, of course, is the far bigger reason to ignore him. He emails some other woman but only winks at you. That speaks volumes about how he sees you.
If a guy winks at you instead of sending you a message, you can dismiss him as lazy. But keep something else in mind. He's basically telling you that he doesn't think you're worth the effort. That, of course, is the far bigger reason to ignore him. He emails some other woman but only winks at you. That speaks volumes about how he sees you.
Wrong, wrong, wrong!!!!
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