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i am someone who is selfish, lacks empathy at times and i can be narcissistic too, which i don't mind admitting. if I meet a girl and she has boyfriend i will still push for a date or for her to give me her number. do not get me wrong, i do not pressure any woman for her number but i can be a persuasive person when i want to be and sometimes i am able to get numbers from girls in relationships.
there are girls in relationships that are rocky and they maybe just need a viable reason (me) to end the relationship or cheat because they are genuinely not happy enough in that relationship. this is not my fault and i am not taking advantage in any way, it's just that these women aren't fulfilled any longer and want something different.
i sometimes think maybe i am immoral, but other times i think why should i feel bad if these women want to cheat or end a relationship they're not happy with? i just come along and find the girl attractive & interesting and want to get to know her and i tell her so. okay so people might think i shouldn't be doing this but the fault doesn't lie with me, does it?
i am someone who is selfish, lacks empathy at times and i can be narcissistic too, which i don't mind admitting. if I meet a girl and she has boyfriend i will still push for a date or for her to give me her number. do not get me wrong, i do not pressure any woman for her number but i can be a persuasive person when i want to be and sometimes i am able to get numbers from girls in relationships.
there are girls in relationships that are rocky and they maybe just need a viable reason (me) to end the relationship or cheat because they are genuinely not happy enough in that relationship. this is not my fault and i am not taking advantage in any way, it's just that these women aren't fulfilled any longer and want something different.
i sometimes think maybe i am immoral, but other times i think why should i feel bad if these women want to cheat or end a relationship they're not happy with? i just come along and find the girl attractive & interesting and want to get to know her and i tell her so. okay so people might think i shouldn't be doing this but the fault doesn't lie with me, does it?
is what i am doing wrong, in your opinions?
"Persuasive" is a prettied up word for "pressure" so call it what it is.
You choose to pressure women to give you their number or go on a date with you knowing they are in a relationship already and there is nothing "persuasive" about it.
One of these days one of those boyfriends/husbands is going to explain very clearly how bad it is to do that.
Also, it is your fault for preying on women who are vulnerable and yes the fault does lie with you simply because you ignore the fact that they are in a relationship.
It really is not your decision if their relationship is "rocky" or not, that is up to them to decide without your being the one to pressure them into something.
i am someone who is selfish, lacks empathy at times and i can be narcissistic too, which i don't mind admitting. if I meet a girl and she has boyfriend i will still push for a date or for her to give me her number. do not get me wrong, i do not pressure any woman for her number but i can be a persuasive person when i want to be and sometimes i am able to get numbers from girls in relationships...
is what i am doing wrong, in your opinions?
Do you really care what we/other people think about this?
I used to think there wasn't really anything wrong with this. It's his job to keep her, if he can't, then that's on him. Now I'm not so sure because I had a bf who was pretty jealous and if guys did anything to show interest, I was blamed and it started a huge thing where I felt really bad about myself. I'm not sure if he was right about every situation or not, but I know it would make it a lot easier if others just respected relationships!
Are these girls who stray so easily (or at all, actually) the type of girls you want? Maybe they are, maybe you don't care, but I thought it was worth mentioning just in case.
To answer your question as directly as I can.. No, I suppose it's not "immoral", that's a question for the girl in the situation, not so much for you. But I don't know of any awesome results for anyone involved that have come from this.
i don't put pressure on anyone. i only tell them that i would like to get to know them better and suggest exchanging numbers just as a friendly meet up. i like to meet new people and this is why i say this. there is nothing pressurising about it. why can a guy not meet up with a woman in a friendly aspect? of course i like to find out a little more about their relationship status but if a woman gives me her number knowing consciously that she has a bf, then the fault doesn't lie with me. she has her own mind and she can tell me she can't whenever she wants.
i don't put pressure on anyone. i only tell them that i would like to get to know them better and suggest exchanging numbers just as a friendly meet up. i like to meet new people and this is why i say this. there is nothing pressurising about it. why can a guy not meet up with a woman in a friendly aspect? of course i like to find out a little more about their relationship status but if a woman gives me her number knowing consciously that she has a bf, then the fault doesn't lie with me. she has her own mind and she can tell me she can't whenever she wants.
Obviously you believe you are not at fault on any level so why bother to start a thread and ask?
yes the fault does lie with you simply because you ignore the fact that they are in a relationship.
Wait, it's his fault if they give their number or go on a date with him?? Because they're just a little lady who doesn't know how to say "No." "Eff off!" or ignore him?? Come on. They're adults who can make their own choices. They are to blame for anything they do.
Wait, it's his fault if they give their number or go on a date with him?? Because they're just a little lady who doesn't know how to say "No." "Eff off!" or ignore him?? Come on. They're adults who can make their own choices. They are to blame for anything they do.
The minute he hears "boyfriend," he's at fault too.
Then it's premeditated.
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