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Old 02-22-2015, 05:55 PM
 
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Yeah, almost every woman I've dated this past decade (all mid 30s plus of age) have heavily preferred texting.
This has been my experience as well.

To the OP: Nope, it's over. You text or call to find out if she's running late or if something happened. Beyond that, it's on her.
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Old 02-22-2015, 07:06 PM
 
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Self respect.
How do you lose self-respect by calling to ask why someone failed to show up at an agreed upon time?
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Old 02-22-2015, 07:10 PM
 
Location: Jupiter
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I was stood up on Valentine's day. I didn't ask her why she did we just ended our year long friendship and haven't spoken since. You don't need to know why she stood you up. It's clear she isn't interested.
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Old 02-22-2015, 07:36 PM
 
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How do you lose self-respect by calling to ask why someone failed to show up at an agreed upon time?

Looking/acting desperate, not knowing how to take a hint. That's how.

She stood him up, he then sent her a text, she ignored the text, and now he should call her?

If he calls and there's no answer, what would be your next bit of advice? Serious question.
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Old 02-22-2015, 09:01 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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I can't imagine hanging out with her and not bringing it up. I mean it's pretty humiliating. I'm thinking of either asking for an explanation or just pretending she doesn't exist.



We met at a party and hit it off. I asked her out and talked to her on the phone once for about an hour. We both agreed to the date and she never showed.
Maybe her recollection of the night was not "we hit it off" and there was nothing to gain from the date.

[move on]
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Old 02-22-2015, 11:36 PM
 
Location: GA
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Delete her. It is so important to make sure you are respected. If something happened she could have called you and explained but the fact that she didn't speaks volumes as well. Never ask this girl out and don't entertain her conversation.
fyi, she might have a relationship. That yes I can go but no show and no call can sometimes be because she thought she could get free from her husband/boyfriend and then couldn't.
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Old 02-22-2015, 11:48 PM
 
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Looking/acting desperate, not knowing how to take a hint. That's how.

She stood him up, he then sent her a text, she ignored the text, and now he should call her?

If he calls and there's no answer, what would be your next bit of advice? Serious question.
Serious answer: I would assume that she has a legitimate reason. Her phone may be broken, and she may have been in an accident. If I can find out about that through a mutual connection, I'll call said person. If there is no way to find out besides communicating directly to her, I'll call to leave a voicemail expressing my concern for her safety. If she doesn't return the call and voicemail, I've done everything and I'll just brush it off.
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Old 02-23-2015, 12:34 AM
 
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How do you lose self-respect by calling to ask why someone failed to show up at an agreed upon time?
Because dating today is a competition. Whoever cares more, loses. Letting a woman know you care is a death sentence.
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Old 02-23-2015, 12:38 AM
 
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Serious answer: I would assume that she has a legitimate reason. Her phone may be broken, and she may have been in an accident. If I can find out about that through a mutual connection, I'll call said person. If there is no way to find out besides communicating directly to her, I'll call to leave a voicemail expressing my concern for her safety. If she doesn't return the call and voicemail, I've done everything and I'll just brush it off.
You haven't dated in a while, have you? This is the new method of women. Instead of telling a guy 'no,' which can cause ugly reactions in person, they just accept the date and then flake out on it. I have a feeling they see it as less confrontational.
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Old 02-23-2015, 12:47 AM
 
Location: Jupiter
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Because dating today is a competition. Whoever cares more, loses. Letting a woman know you care is a death sentence.
Wow seriously?
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