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I haven't dated, especially in the long term, very many people. I've heard people/partners say that they thought we were dating, but clearly we've had differing opinions on the matter, and thus I haven't really had much dating experience. I've also heard that because I haven't done official dating often or with a crazy amount of people (more than 10), it's not the best for figuring out what I want in the future, and I may end up with someone completely incompatible in the end. Some people say shorter term dating sessions are better (date a few people and move on in 3 or so months), or that being in fewer, but quality long term relationships are better (date 1 person for 2 years, then move on). Unfortunately, I'm a bit clueless when it comes to the matter.
What're your opinions? I'd love to hear them!
Last edited by Jjury15; 02-17-2015 at 06:46 PM..
Reason: Clarification
Less men, but better matches is my pick. I rather date one man in a year and have him be a great match than to date 20 men and have them all be so-so. Then again, I know what I like in a man... so maybe when you are younger, more is better so you can start to learn your own taste.
Most guys won't have that option because it would become costly to date multiple women over a period of time. Now a woman on the otherhand can date lots of men because it would not cost her as much as a guy. I have talked to guys who admitted that it's costly to date one women so there is no way a guy can date 3 or 4 unless he is rich. lol
I would rather have a few dates that ended up with great men for relationships.
If it's just a string of dates and none of them ever get serious, then I think it was time wasted, and a let down. Though I suppose with more dates, you learn more about people and see things you like and don't like. So, not totally wasted. But ultimately, the number of dates and suitors matter not to me. The ultimate matches do.
I feel like I would be dating a lot of guys since I want someone who is similar to me. But at the same time, my search for 'the one' would be narrowed and I will not enter into a relationship unless I've known the guy for at least six months. Can't I just skip the tedious task of dating around and just end up with my future husband?
Most guys won't have that option because it would become costly to date multiple women over a period of time. Now a woman on the otherhand can date lots of men because it would not cost her as much as a guy. I have talked to guys who admitted that it's costly to date one women so there is no way a guy can date 3 or 4 unless he is rich. lol
No matter how true, get ready for some people to get upset about this post As a serial dater myself, it definitely gets pricey. But the truth is, I'd be doing most of those things anyway, it just ends up costing a little more because another person is coming...and I don't frequently bump into women with the salaries to keep up. And of the ones who DO...they're much smarter with their money than I am and wouldn't go spending it on frivolous dates!
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Originally Posted by rumpa
I want to date one man forever. Isn't that the end goal?
Nope.
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As a serial dater myself, it definitely gets pricey. But the truth is, I'd be doing most of those things anyway, it just ends up costing a little more because another person is coming...and I don't frequently bump into women with the salaries to keep up. And of the ones who DO...they're much smarter with their money than I am and wouldn't go spending it on frivolous dates!
