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Old 02-19-2015, 07:17 PM
 
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May I ask how old you are, acuriousman?
29.

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My point about experience was that it's not something you can study, it's not something that you can learn from 'reference materials'. You have to bite the bullet and get out there and make it happen.
But experience has to come from a basis in knowledge. You wouldn't just go out and get a high paying job at Google if you never got a degree in marketing/programming.

That's what's I'm looking for. The perfect degree that can lead to the right path.

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Ask someone out.
LOL. We are a VERY long way away from that my friend.

I've only read a handful of papers about approaching the proper way to propose a dating invitation. It's going to take a few more months of reading and research before we even come CLOSE to that bridge.
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Old 02-19-2015, 07:41 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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You won't succeed at this by reading research papers about dating.
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Old 02-19-2015, 07:58 PM
 
Location: West Hollywood
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OP, you're a weird dude. That will make it difficult to get a date if you don't reign it in. Relationships are always different because people are always different and people are always different in each relationship they enter.
Am I wrong in assuming you're on the autism spectrum? Maybe try to meet a woman with the same or similar autism disorder? That way you might have an easier time relating to her.
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Old 02-19-2015, 10:12 PM
 
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You won't succeed at this by reading research papers about dating.
I don't understand. How else will I find out the basis and groundwork of the interaction? I have to have a solid plan before even thinking about talking to her. If he leads to an area I haven't prepared for, I'm done for.

Rome wasn't built in a day.
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Old 02-19-2015, 10:22 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I don't understand. How else will I find out the basis and groundwork of the interaction? I have to have a solid plan before even thinking about talking to her. If he leads to an area I haven't prepared for, I'm done for.

Rome wasn't built in a day.
You're already done for because somehow you've managed to remove the human element from relationships.
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Old 02-19-2015, 10:28 PM
 
Location: Pa
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29.



But experience has to come from a basis in knowledge. You wouldn't just go out and get a high paying job at Google if you never got a degree in marketing/programming.

That's what's I'm looking for. The perfect degree that can lead to the right path.



LOL. We are a VERY long way away from that my friend.

I've only read a handful of papers about approaching the proper way to propose a dating invitation. It's going to take a few more months of reading and research before we even come CLOSE to that bridge.
You have to research how to ask a woman out?
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Old 02-19-2015, 10:33 PM
 
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You have to research how to ask a woman out?
I have to research the proper way of doing so, yes. There's many guides and books I've been reading about it and it's a lot of stuff to sift through.

I have to factor in what the best phrase to use is, how to properly gauge her interest level, my social standing, her social standing, the location we're in, the length of time we've known each other, where I want the relationship to go, who she associates with/I want to associate her with/, etc. And that's just scratching the surface.

But like I said, that's irrelevant. Before I get to that point, I have to master the concept of a relationship itself and soak up as much information as I can before it's too late.
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Old 02-19-2015, 10:38 PM
 
Location: Pa
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I have to research the proper way of doing so, yes. There's many guides and books I've been reading about it and it's a lot of stuff to sift through.

I have to factor in what the best phrase to use is, how to properly gauge her interest level, my social standing, her social standing, the location we're in, the length of time we've known each other, where I want the relationship to go, who she associates with/I want to associate her with/, etc. And that's just scratching the surface.

But like I said, that's irrelevant. Before I get to that point, I have to master the concept of a relationship itself and soak up as much information as I can before it's too late.
Do you already know a woman? That you want to ask out?

I do agree you should get to know a person.Make sure they are single, know your likes and dislikes so you search for someone similar.
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Old 02-20-2015, 01:53 AM
 
Location: Queens, NY
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Every woman is ultimately different. Don't be going in with some kind of game-plan.

This is also why I believe most PUA stuff is BS because every person is different, and the human element gets taken into account, which PUA doesn't really consider important.
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Old 02-20-2015, 04:08 AM
 
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Mod cut.

I suggest that you be upfront when dating. Don't try to be normal or anything, just be your own weird self and you'll attract someone. If you need to read your papers, do it, but keep in mind you're dealing with individual humans, not one female entity. You'll learn more by trial and error.

You can't learn human interaction. I'm a bit of a weirdo myself but I've found that owning my weirdness goes a long way toward other people accepting me. They just don't like it when we try to trick them into thinking we're one of them

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