How to make new Couple friends?? (wives, married, women, love)

[Alinan]

We just moved to a new area and are a couple who is happily married and we would like to make new couple friends. As we both work and have kids we are very busy. We are not church goers to that is not an option. Does anyone have suggestions where we can go or what we can do to meet other local couples to socialize with?

[Roaddog]

School events with your children or other events held for children, people from work, things like that.

[doglover29]

My husband and I (late 20's/early 30's) have been in our new city for a year and a half and have yet to make any friends, let alone couple friends, though we've been trying.

The main thing we've done is join lots of groups--newcomers groups, groups where there's likely to be a higher percentage of couples, etc. We've asked some of the couples we've met at these out for dinner, etc. but no friendships yet.

Beyond this, I have no idea what else to do. We don't know anyone here to introduce us to anyone.

[drjones96]

It's tough. I know exactly what you're going through. It's very hard to make adult friends period. It's even harder to befriend and entire family. Everyone has to be compatable.

Example. My wife has been friends with this girl named Tara. Tara is married to Jake and they have three kids. Jake and I are ok. We don't have squat to talk about because we have nothing at all in common. He's the blue-collar worker, watch football, bow hunting, beer drinking type. Whereas I'm a white-collar worker, cycling, NASCAR, health nut type. Granid we aren't complete opposites but I'd just assume be home playing checkers with my kids as spending any time alone with the guy. No offence. He's a great guy. We just don't mesh well. Our kids are slightly mismatched in age also. They don't really play well together. The end result is that it's great that my wife and Tara have a friendship together but I don't see our families being well matched.

That's the sort of thing you'll run into. You'll find other women you like and would like to do things with. And you'll try to bring your families together and it just won't go well. Or maybe you'll get lucky and it'll work out.

[girleylips]

maybe church or make friends with your work friends? good luck

[LaoTzuMindFu]

Try little league baseball or put your kids in karate classes. You'll be sure to meet other parents and since you are usually on the "sidelines" watching and supporting your kids, its easy to strike up conversations with other parents.

[collected_eve]

Wow, too bad none of us are in the same state!

My husband & I are also searching for happy couple friends. We have lived in this area for almost 2 years now & nothing.
We go to church, but aren't super regulars. I'm looking into parent/child groups, hopefully our answer lies there!

Everywhere else that I've lived I just randomly ran into people & developed great friendships with them.

[drjones96]

I find that it's easy for me to make 1-on-1 friends. It's just very very hard to bring in a whole family.

[tlb71]

Originally Posted by collected_eve

Wow, too bad none of us are in the same state!

My husband & I are also searching for happy couple friends. We have lived in this area for almost 2 years now & nothing.
We go to church, but aren't super regulars. I'm looking into parent/child groups, hopefully our answer lies there!

Everywhere else that I've lived I just randomly ran into people & developed great friendships with them.

Same situation here. We have lived here for going on three years now, and don't have any friends. My husband has a few acquaintances at work, but not really anyone he wants to hang out with outside of work. I have a couple of people I say hello to at the gym, but that is pretty much it.

In the past, we met some of our friends at the dog park, and actually still keep in touch with a couple of them. I don't know if the OP has any dogs, but it is worth a try, in addition to the other suggestions.

[austinsmom]

If you have kids, there's your answer. Other than people I work with, I wouldn't have friends if it weren't for my son! Hubby and I are always at a ball field or gym for practices and/or games or at school for a function. We have 3 couples we've become very good friends with over the last couple of years because our kids are close friends. We can all get together and have a blast because we all like each other. Granted it doesn't happen often but we are very lucky that we meshed with our son's best friends parents. There are plenty that we are friends with that we don't hang out with but we have found those 3 families where husbands and wives all get along. Believe it or not, my son's teacher from last year and her husband are great friends of ours now b/c our son's played baseball and football together and we got to know each other outside of school and all get along famously. Her kids really like and trust us and our son loved her as a teacher and still does. You'd be surprised where friendships may be hiding.