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Some people post this on their profile to be sure anyone contacting them is well aware that they are marriage minded in their life.
I would think you are the target audience, being someone not interested in marriage.
I did because I wasn't interested I'm just friends ( though friends first works), or a friends with benefits or a relationship without marriage. I let it be known that I wasn't going to marry anyone but it was my only dating goal.
It's just a ballpark figure. My point was that 3 years seems a little short to me to decide if you really want to enter into a serious legal commitment with that person. Especially if we're assuming you didn't know the person at all prior to that three year period.
Like I said I would want to know the person on a platonic basis for several months or a few years before even sleeping with them and/or entering into a relationship, thus 3 years is short if you didn't know them. I already know that most on here are going to disagree.
It's all hypothetical in my case anyway, because no one has ever reciprocated my feelings and ultimately, I don't want to get married at all at this point.
Yeah not working out too well for you is it, gee, I wonder why
I kinda disagree with you..My parents met and married after 6 months of dating..They've been together 37 years and my brother met a girl in a chat room in the Dominican..They talked many months then she came here and months later they were married..They are perfect for each other and are now having a baby..My hairdresser dating her husband for 7 years before marriage and now they are divorced...so I really think it's possible if it's the "right person"
Possible, probably not probable.
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I think that article is rubbish. When I was in my 20s and poor with an unstable job and no hopes of finding anyone. If anyone asked me if wanted to get married I would tell them no but secretly I really wanted but I never thought it would happen. Why would I want another setback. My parents did not make it easy. They were very critical of who they thought I would marry. I think parents have alot to do with this also. In the old days, you go to school, get a job and get married but I think parents now hang on too tight. It is so difficult to find someone.
Last time I checked marriage is a choice not damn obligation so why do these statistics matter.
I think the issue is people have mind your own business problem and want to shove their views as end all be all in vain sense of narcissism and a supreme lack self awareness.
My brother is a millennial (born in 1987), has a job, has his own place, and is a father. His daughter's mother lives with him but they don't have any intention of getting married as far as I know. I have asked him about it and he just doesn't see any reason for it...maybe younger people just want to do stuff differently then their parents did. I will say that we come from an extremely chaotic family where we were exposed to divorce, marital infidelity (numerous instances), divorce again, getting in the way of parent's hook-up prospects (and being scolded for it), etc. I have a step-sister 25 years younger than me who is basically being raised in a broken (albeit affluent) home because of marital infidelity. Maybe we just see marriage as somewhat meaningless in many respects - or it is at least very hard to take it seriously.
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Maybe we just see marriage as somewhat meaningless in many respects - or it is at least very hard to take it seriously.
Some of that is just people not having enough life experience to value cultural institutions.
Still, I think the main advantage to marriage is if you plan on having kids and even then, quite frankly, it is debatable.
I don't think LTRs will ever go away, but marriage is just a legal contract; all it really does is just make things a lot harder if you ever break up with your partner. You can be with someone your whole life and be happy without getting legally married to them. My friend from my last job, he never got legally married to his GF but they have children, have been together for over 20 years and they often refer to each other as husband and wife.
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Especially if we're assuming you didn't know the person at all prior to that three year period. 
You can be with someone your whole life and be happy without getting legally married to them. 
