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I've been dating a guy for 5 months and I've gotten quite attached to him. He is sweet and funny and has great taste in a lot of things and we get on really well. Unfortunately things just aren't working for a huge number of reasons (listed below) but mostly because of the fact he smokes 6 joints a day and I am allergic. so I've distanced myself from him and I'm going to end things this week. However I can't stop second guessing my decision to break up with him and I already really miss him and am dying to talk to him. If anyone has any wise words on how to stay strong I would really appreciate them.
My reasons:
Im allergic to weed and he is addicted to smoking. He gives me massive allergic reactions that take over a week to go and are incredibly painful
We weren't committed after 5 months and I felt he was stringing me along
He was really inconsiderate sometimes
I was NOT a priority to him and I deserve to be one
He was terrible/selfish in bed
We barely texted and he sometimes took a whole day to text back yet always has his phone in his hand
He told me my allergic reactions are my fault
He used to ask to see me, I would suggest a day and then he would say 'I'll let you know' and take ages to get back to me
He wants to live with his brother for the rest of his life
Reasons to stay:
He's sweet, caring and affectionate
He involves me with his family and friends
He's quiet and loyal and I never worry about him cheating
He's well travelled
He's a foodie like me
He's very attentive
He's family oriented like me
He tries to improve his sexual performance after I told him I needed more
He's intelligent and successful
Last edited by Dmmarketpa; 02-23-2015 at 12:58 PM..
Reason: Update
I've been dating a guy for 5 months and I've gotten quite attached to him. He is sweet and funny and has great taste in a lot of things and we get on really well. Unfortunately things just aren't working for a huge number of reasons (listed below) but mostly because of the fact he smokes 6 joints a day and I am allergic. so I've distanced myself from him and I'm going to end things this week. However I can't stop second guessing my decision to break up with him and I already really miss him and am dying to talk to him. If anyone has any wise words on how to stay strong I would really appreciate them.
My reasons:
Im allergic to weed and he is addicted to smoking. He gives me massive allergic reactions that take over a week to go and are incredibly painful
We weren't committed after 5 months and I felt he was stringing me along
He was really inconsiderate sometimes
I was NOT a priority to him and I deserve to be one
He was terrible/selfish in bed
We barely texted and he sometimes took a whole day to text back yet always has his phone in his hand
He told me my allergic reactions are my fault
He used to ask to see me, I would suggest a day and then he would say 'I'll let you know' and take ages to get back to me
He wants to live with his brother for the rest of his life
Too funny!!
If I were you ( thank god I'm not ) I would seek therapy for my low self esteem issues.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Originally Posted by Dmmarketpa
I've updated it
Well shoot. Some of those are mighty contradictory. Still, you're not compatible. You're just not.
I have nothing against weed. I used to do it a lot. It's not healthy for me (mentally/emotionally) so I stopped long ago. I'm not allergic, but I still don't want to be around it. Add that to bad in bed? No thank you!
There are a ton of deal breakers on there, and the one truly positive thing you said (He's sweet, caring and affectionate) seems to go against the negatives (I felt he was stringing me along, I was NOT a priority to him and I deserve to be one , He was terrible/selfish in bed, He was really inconsiderate sometimes). He sounds ANYTHING but sweet, caring, and affectionate.
You deserve way better. Cut him lose and move on!!
I've been dating a guy for 5 months and I've gotten quite attached to him. He is sweet and funny and has great taste in a lot of things and we get on really well. Unfortunately things just aren't working for a huge number of reasons (listed below) but mostly because of the fact he smokes 6 joints a day and I am allergic. so I've distanced myself from him and I'm going to end things this week. However I can't stop second guessing my decision to break up with him and I already really miss him and am dying to talk to him. If anyone has any wise words on how to stay strong I would really appreciate them.
My reasons:
Im allergic to weed and he is addicted to smoking. He gives me massive allergic reactions that take over a week to go and are incredibly painful
We weren't committed after 5 months and I felt he was stringing me along
He was really inconsiderate sometimes
I was NOT a priority to him and I deserve to be one
He was terrible/selfish in bed
We barely texted and he sometimes took a whole day to text back yet always has his phone in his hand
He told me my allergic reactions are my fault
He used to ask to see me, I would suggest a day and then he would say 'I'll let you know' and take ages to get back to me
He wants to live with his brother for the rest of his life
Reasons to stay:
He's sweet, caring and affectionate
He involves me with his family and friends
He's quiet and loyal and I never worry about him cheating
He's well travelled
He's a foodie like me
He's very attentive
He's family oriented like me
He tries to improve his sexual performance after I told him I needed more
He's intelligent and successful
Potheads are not successful. Sorry, not buying your update.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Originally Posted by funymann
Potheads are not successful. Sorry, not buying your update.
I don't know about "potheads", but there are many many people that smoke pot that are very successful.
It's not my thing (it was bad for me, personally), but that doesn't mean its bad for everyone.
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