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I understand that, and I apologize for writing it that way. I just wish I had some sort of idea of what was going on, if you were reacting in this manner what options are you weighing in your head?
"I wish this a-hole would stop messing with my emotions and just leave me for good!!"
You missed the part where I said im not contacting her anymore. I still care though, this is 4 years down the tube.
It's not 4 years down the tubes if this has finally caused you to face your issues and seek therapy. You need to see how your verbal abuse affects you and your relationships. And please don't go into therapy thinking that you can do the bare minimum and make some superficial changes, thinking that this will win back your ex girl friend. Chances are that relationship is over. The therapy is for you to understand why you resort to verbal abuse and/or other abusive behaviors and how you can change.
It's not 4 years down the tubes if this has finally caused you to face your issues and seek therapy. You need to see how your verbal abuse affects you and your relationships. And please don't go into therapy thinking that you can do the bare minimum and make some superficial changes, thinking that this will win back your ex girl friend. Chances are that relationship is over. The therapy is for you to understand why you resort to verbal abuse and/or other abusive behaviors and how you can change.
Ofcourse that relationship is over, because even if we do get back together it's going to be a new one, and it isn't going to be now. I'm still in denial and in shock over all that has happened, but even I know getting back together right now is a bad idea. I can't just take this and move on right away, it's really hard at the moment. One moment I could be studying or doing homework, next thing I know, I see an image of her in my mind and I just completely lose track of what I was doing. It's been almost a month, but the wound is still fresh. I haven't slept more than 4 hours in the last 3 weeks, and I've lost 14 lbs. in that time span.
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I know it was wrong to try and win her back, but I was just trying to swallow my pride.
It's just so hard not to get attached to people who make you feel whole, you know?
No I dont know. I think you need to listen to your uncle - grow, evolve and become a better person. If you love her, let her go. If the two of you were meant to be, you will find yourselves thrown together again down the road by happenstance, and not through manipulation from either one of you.
Did she break up with you? If she did, then I would understand the swallowing pride part. Like you want to get back together just so that in a few days you can be the one that broke it off. Its easier to deal with if you can think that. If people ask what happened - you can blame her.
Funny thing about pride - you would actually look better if you accept full responsibility. You would look like a man, rather than a selfish child. No biggie here. You have until 35 to 45 years of age to figure it out.
I remember reading somewhere that pride is a vine with two roots - one good, and one evil.
She couldnt have made you feel whole. If she did, you probably wouldnt have treated her badly.
Listen to your uncle...give yourself time to become a good man first, before entering into long term relationships.
No I dont know. I think you need to listen to your uncle - grow, evolve and become a better person. If you love her, let her go. If the two of you were meant to be, you will find yourselves thrown together again down the road by happenstance, and not through manipulation from either one of you.
Did she break up with you? If she did, then I would understand the swallowing pride part. Like you want to get back together just so that in a few days you can be the one that broke it off. Its easier to deal with if you can think that. If people ask what happened - you can blame her.
Funny thing about pride - you would actually look better if you accept full responsibility. You would look like a man, rather than a selfish child. No biggie here. You have until 35 to 45 years of age to figure it out.
I remember reading somewhere that pride is a vine with two roots - one good, and one evil.
She couldnt have made you feel whole. If she did, you probably wouldnt have treated her badly.
Listen to your uncle...give yourself time to become a good man first, before entering into long term relationships.
Good luck!
Yea, I think it's instinctual for humans to panic in a moment of crisis, which in my case is rejection.
After the break up, I reached out to everyone (my family and friends) and I told them all what happened. I told them the truth, and why she left me. They showed me support for deciding to go back to therapy, but they understood her reason for leaving, I didn't want to blame her.
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