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Me and my ex broke up on the 6th of February, so for the first time in 2 weeks we had a discussion (I was trying to reconcile) on Saturday, I accidentally told her I still love her and she started sobbing. She only seems to remember all the bad stuff in the relationship at the moment, nothing good. I tried bring up good moments but she would just tell me, "Stop, stop, I appreciated it, but that's not fair". It's so weird, I wish we could just sit down and talk like people but she doesn't even want to do that she said if she see's me feeling might start "rushing back".
Can anyone tell me what could possibly be going through her mind?? This whole thing is strange to me.
Me and my ex broke up on the 6th of February, so for the first time in 2 weeks we had a discussion (I was trying to reconcile) on Saturday, I accidentally told her I still love her and she started sobbing. She only seems to remember all the bad stuff in the relationship at the moment, nothing good. I tried bring up good moments but she would just tell me, "Stop, stop, I appreciated it, but that's not fair". It's so weird, I wish we could just sit down and talk like people but she doesn't even want to do that she said if she see's me feeling might start "rushing back".
Can anyone tell me what could possibly be going through her mind?? This whole thing is strange to me.
I understand that, and I apologize for writing it that way. I just wish I had some sort of idea of what was going on, if you were reacting in this manner what options are you weighing in your head?
Chasing won't do you any good. Learn from it and grow. You are best off moving on.
I'm not chasing her, I've only spoken to her twice since the break up and yesterday I sent her a message acknowledging the break-up. I'm not going to talk to her unless she reaches out to me, or we reconnect months from now. I know there are still feelings there, and obviously, I still have feelings for her. I think she needs to cool off, but i'm not chasing.
She just been cold, distant, hateful since the break up.
How would you know she's been cold, distant and hateful since the break up if you're not still trying to contact her? Move on already. Nothing cements a break up like being clingy afterwards.
Me and my ex broke up on the 6th of February, so for the first time in 2 weeks we had a discussion (I was trying to reconcile) on Saturday, I accidentally told her I still love her and she started sobbing.
Lie. You told her that because you want to get back together. It wasn't an accident, you said it on purpose.
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She only seems to remember all the bad stuff in the relationship at the moment, nothing good. I tried bring up good moments but she would just tell me, "Stop, stop, I appreciated it, but that's not fair".
That's because she wants to break up. She does remember the good times, but the bad outweighed the good and she's trying to stay strong in her decision.
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It's so weird, I wish we could just sit down and talk like people but she doesn't even want to do that she said if she see's me feeling might start "rushing back".
Right. She wants to make (and has already made) a logical decision and wants to stick to it, not get it muddled by overwhelming emotions.
I have no idea why you broke up, but she wants to stay broken up. Stop manipulating her emotions and let her go.
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