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Sadly, there are some singles out there, trying to turn the whole singles scene into a meat market. That's not going to happen. Just as some men refused to be rushed for a monogamous commitment, some women don't want to have sex without a monagamous commitment...or even marriage. Not everyone is into the hookup. Some singles need to get a grip and accept the fact that some women are either abstinent or want to proceed with intimacy slowly. A woman is not a dastardly villain because she feels this way. In an earlier day, she used to get respect for being respectable...now just ridicule. The selfishness and predatory irresponsible behavior/attitudes has reached out of control proportions.
I tend to agree with this. I can't imagine assigning an arbitrary day or date to "must have had sex by" in order for a relationship to continue. Actually, I think people who are relationship minded aren't hellbent on sex within the first three dates if they're looking to build an actual relationship, not just get off.
Personally, I think you should know if you have the attraction and desire to want to early on, or you may be with the wrong person. But the desire doesn't have to translate into actually doing it before you feel you want to, whether that's date 2, date 10, whether a week or a month has passed, whether you know things about that person or don't know anything beyond their first name. It's an individual preference, and a decision a couple should make together. Anyone willing to walk away because of no sex after a couple of dates is probably not the person you're meant to be with anyway.
It seems like people have accidental pregnancies all the time. IUDs, birth control pills, and condoms do fail. If I were going to have sex with someone, we would need to be prepared for and accepting of a possible pregnancy.
I know people who have gotten pregnant after a vasectomy and tubals let alone other methods. Pregnant while on the pill is common because many people don't use it correctly such as using other medication. Condoms break too. I was always fearful of pregnancy. I knew I would have issues with abortion and adoption but didn't want to be a single mom.
I know people who have gotten pregnant after a vasectomy and tubals let alone other methods. Pregnant while on the pill is common because many people don't use it correctly such as using other medication. Condoms break too. I was always fearful of pregnancy. I knew I would have issues with abortion and adoption but didn't want to be a single mom.
I took birth control pills briefly in the past, but I don't take anything currently. If I'm going to have sex, I want the babies that I'm meant to have.
I think that's the point she was making, as in if he wants sex early she'll get pregnant. That's certainly my point. I'm not saying to have sex only after marriage, but that this idea of rushing seems weird. I get that for some it works but many others are paying the price. When I did online I was astounded how many people had kids by several people they never married. That is a tragedy.
I took birth control pills briefly in the past, but I don't take anything currently. If I'm going to have sex, I want the babies that I'm meant to have.
That's how I feel. When I marry we will not use birth control. If we are meant to have kids we will but if not we won't.
I know people who have gotten pregnant after a vasectomy and tubals let alone other methods. Pregnant while on the pill is common because many people don't use it correctly such as using other medication. Condoms break too. I was always fearful of pregnancy. I knew I would have issues with abortion and adoption but didn't want to be a single mom.
This. I know a lady who got pregnant after a tubal and I got pregnant while correctly using birth control. Women get "accidentally" pregnant all the time. Yes, some is user error but not all.
If pregnancy does not scare you, disease should. I'm not saying no one should have sex, I'm just saying having sex with multiple partners all the time, for example every time you go on a date, is a real risk. But you all can have fun with your kids or herpes (condoms don't stop the herpes virus shedding, even before a visible outbreak).
This. I know a lady who got pregnant after a tubal and I got pregnant while correctly using birth control. Women get "accidentally" pregnant all the time. Yes, some is user error but not all.
If pregnancy does not scare you, disease should. I'm not saying no one should have sex, I'm just saying having sex with multiple partners all the time, for example every time you go on a date, is a real risk. But you all can have fun with your kids or herpes (condoms don't stop the herpes virus shedding, even before a visible outbreak).
I had a patient who was told she had gotten a tubal during a c-section for baby #3. Well she was back for baby #4. Turns out that tubal didn't actually happen...
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