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Old 03-03-2015, 10:48 AM
 
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I hope your kids don't get attached and get their little hearts broken over your casual fling :'(
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Old 03-03-2015, 10:49 AM
 
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People you are intimate with should not be around your kids unless you are in a very serious relationship. You are not.

"its complicated" should never ever involve kids.
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Old 03-03-2015, 10:49 AM
 
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Is this the guy you mentioned being friends with but hated his girlfriend? Sounds like he thinks of you as his sex partner. If that is fine with you go ahead but if you want more expect it.
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Old 03-03-2015, 10:50 AM
 
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What is the normal timeline of progression on relationships?

"It's complicated" has become the story of my life. What do you call a situation, that is not a relationship, where you see and talk to someone all the time. A person that is around my kids and I frequently. Helps me with home projects. And sleeps in my bed most nights except when he has his kids. ???

What is complicated about what you described?

There is no set in stone timeline of progression for anything related to anything, everything progresses at the confort of those involved.
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Old 03-03-2015, 10:52 AM
 
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That is where it gets complicated...

To make a long story short. He recently broke up with his ex and wants to take things slow with any new relationships.

As far as feelings... I have loved him since I was about 10.

Sleeping in your bed every night, doing things around the house, spending time with your kids and having sex is NOT taking anything slow except for the "committed" part.

It appears you may be the rebound until someone better comes along.
Until you have an established relationship with this man get him out of your children's lives, out of your home and out of your bed.
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Old 03-03-2015, 10:52 AM
 
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everything progresses at the confort of those involved.
With the exception of kids. They are involved but their comfort level is not considered. :/
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Old 03-03-2015, 11:00 AM
 
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I hope your kids don't get attached and get their little hearts broken over your casual fling :'(
He has always been my friend so they have always been around him.
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Old 03-03-2015, 11:01 AM
 
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He has always been my friend so they have always been around him.
Always spent the night?
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Old 03-03-2015, 11:01 AM
 
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Op not trying to offend, but I really hope your children are not getting attached to this person.
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Old 03-03-2015, 11:03 AM
 
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Is this the guy you mentioned being friends with but hated his girlfriend? Sounds like he thinks of you as his sex partner. If that is fine with you go ahead but if you want more expect it.
One in the same. He admits he was unhappy in their relationship. She cheated on him and they broke up.
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