Plain looking partners make better relationships (dating, wife, boyfriend, marry)

[questioner2]

When I was dating, I always wondered if I gave beautiful women the matter of the doubt. It seemed many of the most attractive women I dated could be cruel, mean, petty, boring and unpleasant to be around but I always gave them the matter of the doubt because they were so beautiful and sexy. The ones with the best personality were always the plain looking women but I was not mature enough to understand that in the long run it was better to have a relationship with a person I liked personally vs physically.

I found a good percentage of the beautiful women would have a lack of intellectual skills. Many were extremely intelligent but because they had so many social opportunities, they were unlikely to spend much time doing research at the Library on interesting topics of conversation. The plain looking women who was dateless on Friday night spent more time reading and following the news on TV.

The plain looking women had to work harder on her social skills and etiquette because she knew she had to try harder for a relationship. The beautiful women spent alot of time dating men who were only interested in their looks and did not spend as much time looking into compatibility and personality match.

Of course many of you will find exceptions to this rule (beautiful people who are wonderful inside and out), but I believe that most men make the mistake of giving ugly on the inside beautiful on the outside women the matter of the doubt, and suffer for it.

Agree or disagree?

[movingtohouston]

Oh boy did you open up a can of worms.

[miu]

I agree and the same goes for my preferring a plain looking man over a gorgeous one to date. A gorgeous hunky looking guy gets flirted on by women all of the time and never has to work on his inner qualities.

BTW most beautiful women are quite plain looking without their makeup aka warpaint on.

[Debsi]

Originally Posted by movingtohouston

Oh boy did you open up a can of worms.

If people weren't allowed to stereotype and over-generalize, we'd probably only have 10 posts a day in this entire forum!!

By the way, my husband is quite handsome and he is the best, most caring man I've ever been with. Before him, I dated a wide variety of men, and I can tell you that there are PLENTY of plain-looking jerks in the sea.

[girleylips]

Originally Posted by Debsi

If people weren't allowed to stereotype and over-generalize, we'd probably only have 10 posts a day in this entire forum!!

By the way, my husband is quite handsome and he is the best, most caring man I've ever been with. Before him, I dated a wide variety of men, and I can tell you that there are PLENTY of plain-looking jerks in the sea.

i agree there are good looking and average guy jerks and vice versa for the gals

[Sweden]

I have never gone on dates on Fridays or any other day for that matter. Am I ugly?

To be serious, I don't know if this is true or not. Most of the guys I've found "physically attractive" have been very intelligent, and most of the guys I have not found to be "physically attractive" have been... less interested in intelligent matters, etc.
Might just be me having a weird taste, we'll probably never know...

But I understand what you mean. It is logicl and probably for many absolutely true. But I think there are many, many exceptions to this rule. It's like language- the only thing one can really rely on is that there are always exceptions from grammatical rules... (Darn French! Sigh...)

[easternerDC]

Honestly, this whole post sounds like something that is discussed in high school.

[quote=questioner2;2485622] The plain looking women who was dateless on Friday night spent more time reading and following the news on TV.[[/QUOTE

This seems to imply that a woman's only social outlet is going on a date and that if she does not have a date she MUST be sitting at home.

Maybe you just don't get out much, or maybe you just like stirring up ****. I spent a good portion of my twenties going out 2-3 times a week, and rarely sat on my ass on a Friday or Saturday night because I did not have a date.

[Fat Freddy]

"If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life,
Never make a pretty woman your wife.
So from my personal point of view,
Get an ugly girl to marry you.

A pretty woman makes her husband look small,
And very often causes his downfall.
As soon as he marries her, then she starts,
To do the things that will break his heart.

But if you make an ugly woman your wife,
You'll be happy for the rest of your life.
An ugly woman cooks meals all the time,
She'll always give you peace of mind.

Don't let your friends say you have no taste,
Go ahead and marry anyway.
Her face is ugly, her eyes don't match.
Take it from me, she's a better catch."

[MonaLisaVito]

Originally Posted by Debsi

If people weren't allowed to stereotype and over-generalize, we'd probably only have 10 posts a day in this entire forum!!

By the way, my husband is quite handsome and he is the best, most caring man I've ever been with. Before him, I dated a wide variety of men, and I can tell you that there are PLENTY of plain-looking jerks in the sea.

I agree here.

All pretty or handsome people are jerks??

And all unattractive people are just wonderful!!

[madicarus2000]

From my experience, and this is generally speaking, the pretty and plain girls all thought I was a jerk. The plain girls were the ones to realize that I was just confident in myself and didn’t care about what everyone thought about me. The pretty girls just wanted the boyfriend who their “friends” could be jealous of and so were always concerned about what everyone thought.

In the end I ended up with a plain girl who never tried to change me and I realized how much hotter she gets the older she is. The plain girls blossom slowly, the pretty ones peak early and then start to look like Joan Rivers afterwards.