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I disagree with the premise entirely. Both are equally devastating.
Whichever, and whatever kind of cheating you experience is the worst. Maybe if you've experienced both you can have a real opinion, otherwise, it's ALL bad! And they aren't necessarily mutually exclusive - I don't believe even for men that most affairs are "just sex" - that's just what they say to get their woman off their back and to take them back!
When it comes down to it actual sex is a real action that can be quantified. It happened. You get into gray area with emotional fixations. I think it's better to say betrayal is betrayal regardless of the form. If you are doing something that would betray your relationship or partner that is bad. Period. Saying one is worse than the other is just an EXCUSE people tell themselves and others to make it seem not as bad.
Emotional affairs are usually more detrimental to marriages due to the feelings involved. These relationships are supercharged with emotion and sexual tension, and they exercise a powerful influence in the lives of the participants. Giving more time, energy, and attention to someone outside of the marriage cheats the spouse of intimacy and robs the marriage of energy.
Emotional affairs are worse, imo. It's heart wrenching watching your partner fall out of love with you, and fall in love with someone else; it's a slow and very painful process.
Sex is just sex, and can be done without affection.
IMO this is the truth, however, understandably, other's who value sex for more, would probably disagree.
This principle originates from the Bible. While there are not specific scriptures that address the issues, it does advise us to "Deaden, therefore, our body members as respects sexual appetite." (Colossians 3:5) But Rather than deadening wrong desires, dwelling on or lusting after someone else only enhances them. So when we "keep on looking at another person with sexual desire, we have already cheated with them in our heart", which can trigger lust thoughts that lead to heartaches. But this isn't an easy thing to avoid, especially if our heart is not committed, devoted to our partner.
I disagree. Sexual cheating is more dangerous because of the fact that you can catch the itchy scratchies, but it's not more hurtful. Sex is just see. Humans are animals and we get carnal urges and people sometimes have moments of weakness when they are horney. That can be forgiven.
What can't be forgiven Is loving someone else and having feelings for someone else.
I'm not naive enough to believe I have the monopoly on who my partner is sexually attracted too..being in love doesn't mean you can control your thoughts and sometimes stuff happens. However emotional cheating means that I don't have the monopoly on your feelings, which I do expect.
For instance if I found out my significant other got trashed and slept with someone one time, I could forgive it.
However if my significant other was messaging someone on the computer and said "I love you" even if they hadn't ever met, I would be done.
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