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I'm single because let's be honest. I'm fat, ugly, unemployed, and live in my mother's basement. Gunna make my profile public now just so y'all can see
It's empowering being single because I choose to. I've matured and become more attractive and really just don't care for chasing women. Also logically, I'm in college so it'd be a waste of good years shackling myself to just one girl.
It's empowering being single because I choose to. I've matured and become more attractive and really just don't care for chasing women. Also logically, I'm in college so it'd be a waste of good years shackling myself to just one girl.
How I feel to a tee because I just graduated from college. Even now, I have no desire to have a girlfriend.
Girls just don't see me in a romantic light. I'm too much of a nice guy. I'm told I have a good heart but I need to be more assertive and forward with what I want. I've also been told there's no shame in looking at women 'that' way and expressing those feelings, but I fear they'll think I'm just another desperate guy and add me to a long list of guys who only want one thing. I'm very quiet and it takes me some time to open up and become comfortable around people; not just girls, but everyone. So I guess my being single isn't as much of a woman problem as it is a people problem. At least, I'd like to think so.
I've found being single is incredibly empowering as of late.. It didn't feel that way last year, when I was layin low, struggling, doin my self-work - though now I'm 100% seeing the results of that process.. I'm independent by choice, and I'm grateful for the circle of life & love that surrounds me. <3
i) Not at all attractive or even average looking by conventional standards.
ii) Have little to no experience with social interactions.
iii) Have no interest in conversing about things I find to be "frivolous", which, unfortunately, forms the basis of most people's conversations.
iv) I live and work in a city that is ethnically homogeneous (for the most part), and statistically people of the ethnic majority largely prefer to date each other (nothing wrong with that, but just stating the fact). Women of other ethnic minorities will either stick to their own ethnic group or date a man that is part of the ethnic majority.
v) There is no appropriate venue for me to meet women. My workplace is exceedingly male-dominated, and I have no "social-circle" to speak of.
In truth, I suspect the main contributions to this effect (i.e my relationship status) come from i) and iv), while the rest of the factors are mainly second-order effects that are negligible in comparison.
I mean, it is easier for a woman to find a willing partner than a guy. Truth be told an extremely good looking guy only has as much pull as an average woman.
It is not like women end up in the "Friendzone" the same way a guy can. A guy will usually strike up a few conversations with a girl to get to know her and hang around for a bit. He gets some signals, but nothing concrete and plays it safe until he gets something more definitive. There might be a bit of flirting, but nothing too heavy and both sides seems to have a policy of "plausible deniability". Then one day she asks him for a small favor, nothing too serious and he says, "What is the harm? Why not show I can be relied upon?" She calls him up afterwards and says, "You know, you're a real lifesaver. I'm glad I have you in my life. You're just so... nice" And it hits him like a high kick from Cro Cop; he's in the Friendzone.
What is the female version of that?
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